Having children of your own?
So DH (well my fiancée) and I have been together for just over 3 years. When I met him and he told me he had a SS, I was indifferent about it as I didn't have a desire to have children of my own, yet. I was 28.
Three years and countless arguments over children later - I feel like I'm ripping myself off. At one point I might have seen myself being a mother - I enjoy kids and love my friends' little ones. But seeing DH and the way he behaves with his SS makes me sick. And had made me realize that I don't want to bring any kids into the world with him, especially if they are prone to turning into spoiled brats.
My inlaws are disgusting people and I can't stand associating with them, which is another reason I won't be having a family.
I suppose my plight is two-parted. First being relieved that I figured this out before I started a family with him. But I'm sad that if I stay with him, I'll never be able to experience being a mother myself since I won't have kids with DH.
Has anyone else decided against children - solely because the way your spouse behaved with his stepkid(s)?
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If you don't want to have
If you don't want to have kids with this guy then why are you marrying him?
Here is how I based the fact I wanted a child. I knew someday I wanted a child. I wanted that child in my life because I am ready to be a mother. There is so much of my mother I would like to pass alone to my child plus more. That child is part of me and I get to mold that child. No matter what happens that child is a prenamant relationship to me.
Now lets think of the worse of things. My marriage may not last past 10yrs. Do I still want that child? Yes I did. Because I wanted to be a mother. The marriage ending will not stand in my way of having a child because I wanted to be a mother.
Was my husband the best suiter for a father? He loves his children but he does not spend a great amount of time with them. He hates sports and he will not go watch sports when his son was on the football team or swim team, He would not watch his daughter cheerlead.
Now if you wanted to go camping, hiking, hunting, biking, kayaking or fishing, he is all for it.
However that is fine because I felt I was enough for that child because I would be there.
Between my traits and my husband traits, I would hope the child would take his eye colors and both our fair colored skin and my smooth skin. That child boy or girl would be stunning.
There is more then this but it was part of my master plan.
Worse thing about t his master plan. We tried to get pregnant and it never happen. Actually saddens me. It hits me wrong time to time because I will not be able to watch a little of me and him grow into that stunning child.
I have to do other things to get this taken off my mind. There are days when I stand in a grocery store line seeing a child sit in a cart puts me in tears at times. ....