It's been a long time since I've posted as my life has been pretty smooth and I have little issues with my bf's son he's a great dad and parents wonderfully. My issue is my own kid. Lately (since his dad moved 2 states away really) but much worse the past 4 mo my son has become a jerk! He's 14, last semester he failed all his core classes he would lie about homework and his teacher were not very supportive of devising a way I could be informed about homework (they are still not the best but I went to his councilor and got some support now he's only failing math)
However today I suggested my bf disengage from my son. He has been a rock for me with my job since I've been put on 24 hr shifts and he backs me with everything I do. Which means if I ground my son, he tells him or makes it stick when I'm at work. He has to be the bad guy and take the cell phone, and power cords to the PC and xbox he gets on him about stealing food and locks the pantry and our room (my son is also a binge eater and is in counseling) Whenever he does these things I tell him to make sure my kid knows this is MY punishments. That they come from me. So today was kind of the last straw and my son was rude and disrespectful about having his cell to talk to his dad (instead he was on the internet on it. So I told my bf to disengage to stop doing for my kid, not cook for him, stop taking him when he goes places, stop taking him to fun things, don't spend a dime on him and I would send him to my parents when I work instead for the next week and the following one his out of state with his dad.
I feel like I'm out of options though my bf is so kind hearted and supportive I think I'm more stressed and upset than he is.