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Lalena75's picture

But I cannot dwell on it. SO was told by the state low income legal help they don't have any lawyers who can help with custody I helped him find the forms and info to file a response to the divorce petition (BM wants custody and SO to have "reasonable visitation) while he flips out over her leaving them alone with her twice concicted meth manufacturing felon bf the constant lice infestation his daughter has had to deal with. Without a lawyer he feels like he has no chance to get the very fair joint parenting agreement. I have no money to help him no time and no energy I'm 2 semesters away from having my license I'm finishing tge last 150 hrs of my internship plus classes and working and I start clinicals in a month. I can't do his shit and mine something will lose and it won't be all I've been working for. I feel bad for him and the kids but it's not my responsibility and I feel bad it's this way. I'm exhausted physically and mentally.

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Lalena75's picture

I hope for him I just can't make it happen I can't stand not having control of something but I know I can't. I'm hopeful that because he's asking for a very fair detailed joint agreement a judge will grant it. He has no criminal record she has drug possession check fraud the felon meth making bf she lives with her parents who have a long list if check fraud civil suits against them domestic violence restraining orders and leaves the kids with her brother with a same record and his gf has had her kids removed by the state. He'd love sole custody buthe knows she's a shitty parent but not wuite what a judge would see as unfit. So offer fair and wait till she screws up she's done told multiple people she doesn't want the kids ahe just doesn't want him to have them so she can get cs. He just eants what's best for the kids.

StickAFork's picture

^^This sounds like a great idea, but they cannot practice law unless they're LICENSED.

StickAFork's picture

So he's not divorced? Yuck.

He can figure out how to fill out the forms. It doesn't take rocket science. (I know, I did mine.)

Does BM have an attorney? If not, at least the playing field is level. If she does, well, he's at a disadvantage.

Focus on your plan and your school. Good luck!

Lalena75's picture

BM has a great attorney her bf is paying for, they had started all this before when SO had a lawyer on a payment plan so did BM then they both had financial problems SO couldn't pay the lawyer and BM's fired her after the last hearing because the judge told them due to some filing issue (I think it was a time issue) they had to start over refile. I came along just after that and he assumed they would manage to agree to what was left to agree to on their own and file redo it be done, BM got a crazy bf (registered sex offender) and SO was then wanting sole custody and cs BM flipped dumped the bf when she realized he could do that, and now were here in this mess.
As for law students they won't get in trouble for practicing without a license as they are just like me with my internship (I think) they work under their Deans license but can't represent in court as legal council but with SO representing himself (which is legal) well technically that's working without a law license. they would be not representing him but more making sure papers are correct. I think that's all their allowed to do outside of an internship.
He's just crossing his fingers the judge will tell them to go to mediation and he can get the plan court ordered. Or he'll try to fight in court on his own with all the documentation, their old neighbors said they would testify against her as I guess many of them had to deal with the kids coming to their houses early in the morning after my SO went to work (when they were together) because mom wouldn't wake up or feed them, her current neighbors see everything going on and are worried about the kids (they are my exh's aunt and uncle)and we have a bunch of crazy threats in text message to me and to SO (yay goolge voice for making that easier). I'm on him to keep looking for work and not get defeated and just keep being a good dad and a good man control what he can and try not to worry about the what if's till they happen.
I don't know give me a diabetic seizing I can help with that in my sleep I'm not patient enough for law.