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OMFG! I was livid! What would you do?!?!?!

LaMareOssa's picture

I still get mad when I think about what happened yesterday! OMFG!!!

So, DH and I have DS4 and DD 7. DH has full/sole custody of SD11 since Jan 2012. As I have said before..over and over.. SD is a VERYYYYYY greedy person. So anyway.. out in our garage we have a box for old clothes, shoes, toys, etc that we fill over time and give to Good Will.

Yesterday, I was out in the garage putting a pair of DS4's jeans in the box. I see a small nice purse and really nice robe in the box. I bring them into the kitchen where DD and SD were standing. I hold them up and ask SD if shes sure she doesn't want these because I'm getting ready to take the box to Good Will soon. She says "No, I don't want them anymore." I asked if she was sure because it was a really nice purse. She said No I don't like them and we can get rid of them. I said OK. I go to turn around and DD7 says "Mommy! I really like that purse, can I have it since SD doesn't it?" I said "Yeah, that's fine with me." DD looks over at SD and SD smiles and shakes her head yes. Now..I don't see the problem here. There was nothing said and everything was fine. 15 minutes later I get 2 texts come through on my phone. I'm standing in the kitchen cleaning and I read the text..I was PISSED!!!!!!
Heres what it said "I want you to know that I don'nnt like it that ur giving other people my stuff!! I wanted to keep those things to sell and I am not allowed to say anything about it. I'dd apresiate it if you quit doing that. Thanx 'SD11' " End quote.

I read them and my hands started shaking. I forward the texts to DH. He calls instantly and when I answer his first words were "What The Fuck?! Whats going on? Was that to you?!?!"" I told him how angry I was andhe needed to talk to his daughter about being disrespectful. I told him I would speak to her just as soon as I calmed down. He said I needed to go chew her ass about it right now. We get off the phone and I call SD into the kitchen..Heres what I told her little ass

Pointing my finger at her; "I got your text. I have told you before, if you would like to speak to me or address an issue in this house, you need to speak to me. Do not text me or write me notes when I'm in the other room. We live in the same house, Do NOT text me from the couch while I'm a few feet away in the kitchen. Secondly, Do not ever speak to me like that again. It was very disrespectful. We have talked to you about this before; if something goes in the box in the garage, it's up for dibs if it can fit DD or if she wants it. If you don't want it, then it's not an issue. We have also told you that you will not hoard things just to be greedy. You will not be selling anything. If there is something that you don't want, but DON'T want DD to have then you can take it over to your grandmas house and keep it there. If there is stuff in the box you would like to sell at a yard sale, then please feel free to bring it over to your grandmas house and do it there. This behavior and greediness is unacceptable. It will NOT be tolorated in this house. [Daddy] said [DD] could keep the purse. If you don't like it, or if you have an issue with this, you can speak to your dad when he gets home. Do you understand me?!?!?!"

I was so mad, I was shaking. I could not believe she had the nerve to text me from my couch while I'm in the kitchen! Actually, it's not 'nerve', it's cowardly. I can't stand her!!! I really wish her mother would just come and take her!!! DISENGAGED COMPLETELY!

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RedWingsFan's picture

HOLY HELL! I don't blame you one bit. I'd have done the same thing and then taken away her damn phone for texting me like that!

step off already's picture

yes. Phone would have been taken away immediately. Alternately, I understand being so upset by skid that you want DH to handle it.

So perhaps you insist DH have a discussion with her and that be one of the consequences. Poor phone etiquette = no phone priveleges.

DaizyDuke's picture

I guess I would have been more annoyed with the greediness/brattiness than the texting in the same house... hell SD15 texts DH all the time in the house, simply because she's a lazy ass that can't be bothered to walk upstairs/outside/whatever or because she knows I'm with DH and doesn't want to ask him in front of me. I guess I'm to the point that I would rather SD NOT talk to me... everrrrrr.

LaMareOssa's picture

SD will text DH from her room while he is in the living room. We have a pretty small 1 story house. I don't play that game. If you have something to say then open your mouth to speak. Don't be lazy or cowardly and use a phone Smile

RedWingsFan's picture

^^Yup, stepdevil14 did this bullshit from her room, exactly 15 feet away from where DH and I were sitting in the living room. He actually ANSWERED her text! I was floored. I said "Are you fucking kidding me? She TEXTS you from another ROOM in our apartment and you answer her?" He didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with that.

So you know what I did? I waited until he went into our room and I texted him! LOL To show him how stupid it was. He got it then. But shit, come on. Get your lazy ass up, walk into the other room and ask your stupid fucking question in person, SD!

tryingmom's picture

My DH would tell you "that's how all the kids are communicating now" BS....really??? I don't care if a room full of kids are silently texting to each other, we are adults, EXPECT kids to talk to you to communicate!!!! Damn, stop encouraging the antisocial behavior!!

LaMareOssa's picture

Honestly, and this sounds terrible, I wanted to slap her across the face and punch her in the throat. :O

Shaman29's picture

I completely understand. I've had the same reaction with DHs' kid many a time. Probably because that is what my mother and father would have done to me had I pulled the same stunt.

In fact, I was slapped across the face a few times in my pre-teen and teenage years for being disrespectful towards them.

clydella's picture

Honestly, and this sounds terrible, I wanted to slap her across the face and punch her in the throat.
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You're not terrible I would've wanted to too!! Sounds like the kid has no backbone, easier to say something in a text instead of face to face. I'm glad you called her on it, she deserved it.