Family Holiday Card issue of another sort
I sent out "Happy New Year!" cards with our family pictures on it- skids included; no questions about that- I have been their SM for 14 years- they are my kids. This card included a wonderful family photo from Thanksgiving Day of all 6 of us, a picture of the 4 kids, and a picture of me and Loghead. Great color pictures, family monogram, nice message of the front "From the ***** Family." On the back of the one sheet card, a nice holiday message wishing peace and joy in the new year, and all of our names...
I sent these out in the mail on January 2, as they did not arrive to the house until December 31, and there was no mail on New Year's Day.
Now, normally, I would send out a regular Christmas card before the 24th. But this year, I just didn't have money in the budget to order the ones I wanted from my favorite printing company until after my payday on December 21st. Also, with all the other holiday things going on, I didn't have a lot of time, and the weather didn't cooperate- as a teacher in the MidWest, I usually have a snow day in December and get them finished. This year, no snow.
So what's the problem you ask? Well Princess 20 had the opportunity to go out of a town for a few days with my in-laws to visit my brother in law 10 hours away for his 50th birthday. MIL, FIL and SIL went, and invited her to go along. She got home about an hour ago, and has told us all about her trip, showed us these great photos, etc. Then she says, and oh, BTW, when you send out New Year's cards, it takes the "Christ" out of Christmas, and isn't very Christian like to forget the real reason for the holiday season.
My BIL and his wife are major bible thumpers. Their card was full of status updates on how all the kids are doing at their Baptist colleges, and with the kids' Christian music recording contracts and Christian based art company...
I was stunned that she said this, but the more I've thought about it, I am pissed. I don't really think she meant anything by reporting it; it was just something said at a family gathering... I have informed Loghead i am pissed and that a family holiday card should not be used to pass judgement on someone else; it's the thought that counts and it's a way of spreading family news and greetings. I hate the gossipy- this is what my kid did kind of card, but I like to include photos.
It was an expense we couldn't really afford, but I send cards every year, about 20, even though we maybe received less than 10 this year... And I only send them to his family and mine. I send my family pictures all the time, but for his family stretched far and wide, those holiday cards are sometimes the only time they see the kids unless they FB with my DH.
I'm really insulted and now wonder if I want to continue the tradition... Not to mention the fact that my in-laws would talk about me like that! And it doesn't really matter who said it - okay it SO does, but I'm not gonna ask Princess... But after all I did to fix and mend loghead and the skids after what Loca put them through?! That's why I started the cards years ago in the first place, to show people we WERE a family and everything was going to be okay...
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Just told Loghead again how pissed I am... Now I'm more pissed. "Why? Why did you send cards so late? Who sends "New Year" cards?!"
Hell; it seems I never win!
Oops- pardon me, cursing is so unChristian like...
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WOW what a bunch of *ssholes.
WOW what a bunch of *ssholes. My cousin(we grew up like siblings) is like that. Whenever he or his wife says crap like that to me I always say "well it isn't very christian like to pass judgement on other people now is it?" That usually shuts them up.
I am NEVER consistent with photo cards. Sometimes I send for christmas, sometimes easter, new years, sometimes multiple holidays in during the year. Actually, this year I'm going to be sending them out for Valentine's Day. I just made the appt for the last week in January for family pictures. It's whenever we have the money, time and it coincides with an available appt with the studio. I'm just random like that. My family and DH's family are just grateful to get pics since we're so far away and usually only get to see our families once a year.
Who cares when you send cards? Be grateful to be on the receiving list.
Don't worry about it. You send the cards whenever you feel like it. I wonder what would happen if you send them out for new years again next year and exclude them. When asked you could always say you heard they were seriously offended by your new year's card last year so I chose not to offend you this year.
I know many serious
I know many serious Christians who send out New Year cards because they run out of time before Christmas.
I think next year you should send out Valentine's Day cards/letters/updates and then it's a totally religion-free holiday.
As stupid and petty as the comment was, try to ignore it. Really, it only reflects badly on the person who said it, and isn't a bad reflection on you at all.
i forgot what site i was on
i forgot what site i was on and went to "like" this comment. haha!
How very christian of them to
How very christian of them to pass judgement.
I would just drop them off
I would just drop them off your mailing list. I sent some out late after New Years. Sorry, but not everyone got a card and if you sent one and we didn't get it until after we got back from vacation. Sorry! I am over 50 cards....I love the idea of 20...
I'm shaking my head in
I'm shaking my head in disbelief. If something as innocent as receiving your card took the Christ out of their Christmas, they are in sad shape (and who knew you had such power, LOL!). I hope that is the worst thing that happens to them. I personally like to get picture cards and I don't care if they are late-it's nice to know someone thought of me. But I laugh at the ones where people insert a letter to brag about themselves, especially when they crow about what fine Christians they all are :barf: Being a good Christian is like having class. You don't have to broadcast it because if it is real, everybody already knows. And everybody already knows if it is phoney. They sound like the $3 bill family (phoney).
That would be the last card they received from me. Your thoughful gesture offended them. Apparently they will only accept certain cards in certain timeframes. And you don't want to be taking Christ away from them and ruining their Christmas after all. Let your DH take care of that chore for his family from now on. Then they can slam him for sending family picture cards that take the Christ out of everybody's Christmas.
Detach and don't give these pumpkinheads another thought.
they are petty and ignorant.
they are petty and ignorant. putting you down for something stupid makes them feel more righteous. i wouldn't send his family a damn thing anymore. and if he bitches next year when he sees you sending things to your family and not his, repeat his words back to him. "who sends new years cards?" they can't stand to have their own lines repeated back to them, because there isn't a damn thing they can say to dispute them!
It was Princess 20, not the
It was Princess 20, not the family, who made the comment. She is entitled to her opinion. You're letting something really unimportant get to you.
Besides, she is confusing New Year's with Christmas. It is her mistake, not yours. The card was appropriate and inoffensive even to Bible thumpers. Let the comment go and send cards whenever you wish to whomever you please for whatever reason you want whenever you can afford to.
In the meantime, join me in a bit laughter at Princess 20's expense:
Ha ha ha ha haa haa ha haa ha, oh it hurts, ha ha ha...