So, at the last hearing, on Monday, SO agreed to supervised phone calls between Warthog and the kids. A third party will supervise them so she can't claim he is refusing to allow the phone calls or hanging up and preventing the kids from saying things. Also, she can't claim the kids said things they didn't and we will be notified if there are things they said that need to be handled in counseling. I wish the counselor herself was supervising them but Warthog won't allow that. Mostly because she used to work for the same entity and was let go due to her behavior with patients and her drinking. This was shortly before she went into private practice and the world imploded, but I digress.

I sent an email to the attorney handling SO's side of it and I am hoping I haven't overstepped my bounds but he asked for my opinion so I gave it to him. I told him that we have been struggling from the outset with scheduling and structure for the kiddos and this just throws an even bigger wrench into the system. It's frustrating but if she expects to talk to them everyday she is out of her mind.

Here's where my frustration comes in, at what point do we look at this woman and say it's your behaviors, not ours, that have led to this? Why is everyone so afraid to hold her accountable? Her parents, the attorneys, the judge, the BIL, everyone treats her like some delicate freaking genius. I get that alcoholism is a disease, but it's a treatable one, and when someone refuses to get the treatment they need, do we do charity walks for them? No, we say, that's really sad but you know, it could have been prevented. Why are we catering to someone who has been sober for 45 days and still acts like an over the top nutbag? The treatment center has said that she has done so much damage to her brain and body that she will never be normal. The doctors have said that her mental health issues have gotten to the point (due to her drinking) that she will never have real impulse control again. Hell the shrink who had her on the mental health commitment said that it would probably take a dozen trips to treatment (she is on number 3) before she even RECOGNIZES that she has a problem, let alone tries to control it.

And yet, we are all supposed to bend over backwards for a woman who told the court she could afford the mortgage on a 200k house (despite only receiving 1400 a month in unemployment) and then scoffed at the idea of paying child support. At what point do we look at this person and say you don't get to play in this arena anymore. I don't have a problem letting her have a little time here and there but why should SO and I have to live in fear that every little thing we do will risk him losing custody to this beast while she continues to act with impunity.

As a lawyer, I have to say this, the system totally sucks.