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Is this common for psycho BM's?

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Thu, 04/07/2016 - 5:06pm

BM had told SD5 that she will pick her up on her birthday next Friday though we are kind of guessing that won't happen since BM works at H&R Block and it is the very tail end of tax season so we are assuming she will be working.

Anyway, I checked BM's twitter today to see if there was anything on there about working next weekend or not and there wasn't but I did see a slide show she posted of pictures of SD with captions about how perfect she was and how she was worth it all and blah blah blah.

Now, BM willingly gave up custody of SD because she would rather do that than actually pay her rent to give her a place to live and has gone a month without seeing her and almost never has any contact with her when she doesn't have her but then makes this slide show like she is mother of the year.

Is this common for crappy mothers?

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Thu, 04/07/2016 - 6:04pm

Ok, confession time. I am, on some level, actually jealous of BM.

I mean really, her life is nothing to write home about. She is 32 years old and lives with roommates because she is so financially unstable she can't afford her own apartment. She never went to college, until this year she worked at McDonald's and can't keep a steady relationship.

But, at the same time, she also has no responsibilities. She gets all the fun of being a mother without any of the actual responsibility. For most of the year she gets to spend 4 days a month with her kid, do whatever the hell she wants, doesn't have to take her to the doctor, doesn't have to discipline, doesn't have to pay jack crap in CS and the rest of the time her life and money are her own. She can go to shitty concerts, fly to England on vacation, go to sports events, go to the bar, stay up as late as she wants and dump all her problems on someone else to deal with etc. Pull any bullshit she wants and there are no repercussions.

Must be nice to be a BM without any responsibility.

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Thu, 04/07/2016 - 6:47pm

You want to know what the really sick part is?

Not only is she fronting like she is mom of the year while you are the one tucking her kid in evety night, she has probably convinced herself in her twisted mind that she is super mom. Sad

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Fri, 04/08/2016 - 1:21am

Very common. The BM2 I deal with lives in another country and, literally, all she does for SS13 is talk to him on video phone for 5-10 minutes every Sunday. Yet once in awhile I'll see her talking to some mutual FB friends about how "her and DH" worked so hard to get SS13 this or that. Or I'll hear about posts about how much she loves her special little snowflake.

Uh I am the one who helped DH getting SS13 help for this and that. DH and I do all the work and DH finances everything. BM2 pays absolutely nothing and when she does send money, she brags about how she got her bf or bf's family members to pay for whatever. She makes me sick...

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Submitted by RayRay on Fri, 04/08/2016 - 2:13pm

Yep completely normal. We (DH and I) do everything for skids. Absolutely no help financially, emotionally or physically. BM sees them for a few hours every other weekend and she somehow thinks she is still MOTY.