Well if things weren't bad enough, my mom went into the hospital Friday. After spending my weekend there with her, it turns out she is passing more kidney stone pieces...and all the stress of my older brother's passing has caused her to develop shingles...and if that's not enough they found a spot on her lung while doing all this testing (my brother died from lung cancer). So all is bad on the mom front.
But wait there's more.... I was worried about dh because he was very out of sorts Thursday. He wouldn't talk about it and wanted to just go to sleep. So Saturday while we're in the hospital with mom and she's sleeping, I ask him what was wrong...you know to be all supportive. He says that our company has decided to fire the night manager and have dh take over the position.(DH has the daytime version of that job). So immediately, dh will be working 7:30pm -6:30am.
Needless to say I was more than a bit over whelmed. I asked dh if he was serious about our relationship continuing...you know how working opposite shifts can destroy a family. And he said he wanted to stay together no matter what, forever and ever. So I said I'd work hard to adjust to this horrible new schedule...I'm gonna only see him like an hour in the a.m. and an hour at night until weekends. It's gonna suck and I'm so completely depressed it's not funny.
I told him I'll work with bm any way I can...no fights or resentments...we've got to pull together and make things run smooth now no matter what.
DH said we could have skids stay with bm all week and we'll take them on weekends. Skids probably wont' like this deal and dh will miss them terribly. I said that that what I would like to do is sit them down and explain the situation and say look, you can stay here in your home with me the sm, or you can live with your bm while dad's working m-F...you have the choice. I think skids will want to stay with us because is their home, friends in the neighborhood, etc...In fact, I think they'll be spending less time at bm's just as a matter of how things are going in our home since they seem to like it better here.
Anyway, dh was happy I was cooperative and even more so when I said I'd handle whatever pickup/dropoff/sports I'd have to so we could have a happy family life and I'd do it w/o fighting with bm...in fact I wanted to sit her down and talk with her about how we can all interact so things go smooth as far as her not showing up 2 hours late for drop offs, etc...just kinda chat so everybody's on the same page. DH thought it was a good idea.
So I'm very unhappy about the job thing...we're both looking for different jobs like NOW.
DH sent me an email this morning after that guy was terminated and it was announced that dh was going on nights. I'd sent him some email-forward I'd gotten this morning (oddly enough) about valuing the things that matter, yadda yadda yadda...all very nice... and he sent me this reply "...I was thinking about you last
night,as i was sitting in the house alone. It seemed so empty with out YOU and the boys there. You guys are what matter to me more than anything else!! Just wanted to be sure you always know that..."
So he really doesn't want to tear up our lives any more than I do but he has no choice right now if he wants to stay employed...but he's definitely looking for another job and me too.
I know we'll do whatever it takes to keep our life together, it's just gotten even more difficult when I thought it couldn't possibly be worse.
Oh well, at least we're all still together....
Thanks for listening to my rant everybody.lol