Over my husband
He annoys the shit out of me.
His almost NINE year old daughter asked where a toy was of her's and he said, "It's not charged..and that's my job."
I said, "UHHH who's job is it to charge their own toys?" He kept saying over and over it was HIS job (in front of her.)
Ok, really? She's almost 9 and can't charge her own things?
More annoyingly, yet again, there is a separation between DADDY AND HIS WITTLE BABY and me. I just know the little brat was absolutely GLOWING with her DADDY saying over and over how it was HIS job to plug her fucking toys in.
I am so over this jackass, his annoying ass kid, and all the fucking DRAMA AND BAGGAGE that goes along with them.
I want out.
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I think my son was 3 or 4
I think my son was 3 or 4 when he showed my mom how to charge her cell phone.
I think that if something
I think that if something like this irritates you so much, you should get counseling. I don't mean that in a mean way but in a way that can help you try to work things out with dh before you say, "I'm filing for divorce." Counseling can be a great outlet and help you learn strategies to improve things. If money is an issue, you should call your local YWCA and/or department of mental health for resources.
You said that dh has custody of sd but does nothing with her. Her mom isn't in the picture. She likely needs professional help too, and discipline, attention and love from her dad.
Her mom is back in the
Her mom is back in the picture so that's good.
I never said I would divorce someone because they are a shitty parent, however, I do need counseling!!!
Agreed. Unfortunately this
Agreed. Unfortunately this is how he has raised her from birth..
An example of how he has enabled her to become completely dependent is food. He has given her plain, simple food since birth. No matter what or where, no sauce, no spices, no certain vegis or "odd" food...and he wonders why she is a picky eater now? He tries that crap with our bio and I do NOT accept that.
Oh he sounds JUST like my
Oh he sounds JUST like my OH!
SS is 10 - turning 11 in a few months and still eats barely anything and NOTHING with any flavour etc - just a sausage in bread or a hot dog or a pie.
He also is not responsible for anything - OH does it all for him, cleans his room, packs his bag, charges his stuff - this kid couldn't even get himself a bowl of cereal last weekend. OH put the bowl, the spoon and the cereal on the bench and said the milk is in the fridge.
SS stood at the bench, looked at the stuff that was out. Looked in the sink, looked around the kitchen, looked in the cupboard NEXT to the fridge - all the while with a blank expression on his face - very perplexed and confused LOL
In the end I've gone "the milk is IN the fridge - you see that white thing there?"
OMG
And he wonders why his kids have no motivation, life skills and are failing at school.
There are some moms here who
There are some moms here who admitted the other day that they still make their kids lunches even though the kids can do it themselves. They do it because they want to/enjoy doing it not because their kids can't.
Some parents just enjoy doing stuff for their children.
Making lunch and taking care
Making lunch and taking care of toys are 2 completely different things. And the point is that he argues over and over [in front of her] that it is his job to charge her toys.
I think the difference would
I think the difference would be if they do it EVERYTIME and the kid wasn't able to do it themselves though.
I will SOMETIMES make lunch or breakfast for my dd's, because I like to - but most of the time they are expected to get it themselves.
lol
lol
He's FIRED!
He's FIRED!
I would tell SD "Well Dad
I would tell SD "Well Dad gets busy so let me show you how to do it. Then you can remember yourself like a grown up. Then you won't have to wait for Dad to get it done next time." It may take a couple of times to do it but she will work it out. Consider it an empty promise... he let her down by not fulfilling his 'job' to charge her toy.
Then show her where the charger is kept and how to do it in a safe place (like not by the kitchen sink brimming with water) and set it up for her to be responsible for it. If DH makes a fuss about it remind him that he has enough to do and this is so his daughter can learn to take care of herself and her possessions.
Oh I don't know. If you look
Oh I don't know.
If you look at it as an isolated little thing then yes, it can seem petty.
But when you look at the big picture - her OH is taking responsibility for things which he SHOULD be teaching his kid to do.
It is NOT OH's fault that the toy wasn't charged really, but instead of taking the opp to teach his kid and help her gain some life skills and independence he just says "oh daddy should have done that my bad!"
the kid played with the toy, the kid used up all the battery and at this age should well and truly be capable of charging it. Dad needs to step up and help his kid grow up.
It most likely happens across the board in the kids life (I know from how my OH parents his kids - they are "just kids" and not responsible or old enough for anything, if SD13 loses her iphone or ipad it's always someone elses (mum or dad's) fault....
So - may seem small and petty but in the scheme of things, when you have children who should be being taught how to take responsibility and aren't it is a bigger deal than it appears.
JMHO of course.
sounds like my ex SO with his
sounds like my ex SO with his 8 year old mini wife brat.Yeah, it is petty to get upset, however I totally get it.Why is that his f.....g job to charge her toys and even worse, why does he claim it such a big deal while she is listening???It is like saying "it is my job to treat you like a baby forever" to her.Silly Ex so used to apologise even to his dauhter for all similar kind of crap and one day he even said "it is my job to spoil her".Vomit!!I ran away from it in the end, not saying that is the right thing for everyone to do.But we had other issues, too. :jawdrop:
Helping kids out is something
Helping kids out is something every parent wants to do. Helping the kids out to the point where it stunts their development is caring more for yourself than your child.