Overwhelmed
Ok so I just need to know if I'm being overly sensitive, if I'm just dealing with a typical teenager, or if she's just basically an asshole. To me. Again. So, I made dinner the other night, steak tacos for Cinco de Mayo, trying to make it festive and fun. My husband called my 16 year old stepdaughter out of her lair of a room that she never comes out of really to say dinner was ready. She comes down and graces us with her lovely presence and sits at the table with her knee up looking like someone died. Totally ruined the vibe of a nice dinner for me. Went to the trouble of making herself a taco with everything I had on the table, literally took one bite and sat there and stared and just made me madder by the second actually. I eventually asked her if she didn't like it and she said I'm not hungry, got up and threw it directly in the garbage can. It took everything I had to not freak out and lose my shit. I was mad at my husband too cause he kinda just brushed it off like ugh teenagers, but it just made me furious!! I literally just poured myself a wine after and went and soaked in my tub and texted my best friend about it lol. Is this something others have dealt with????
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This is the sort of passive
This is the sort of passive aggressive behaviour that is very hard to confront directly because the perpetrator will deny they had any ill intention! However, if I had been your DH I would have said something about the rudeness of binning a meal that you had worked hard to prepare. Personally, the way I am now (admittedly not 10 yrs ago) I would have said something myself if my SD did this. I am a very good cook, and my SDs used to push the food around on their plates and eat hardly any of it. After some while of that EOW, I told my DH that he was cooking for them in future, and he did. He could only cook about 2 dishes but, hey, not my problem.
The tacos story triggered
The story about the tacos triggered a memory for me. I spent ages making an amazing cottage pie with really special beef. YSS took one bite and refused to eat anymore without dad getting him bisto gravy (powder cheap gravy). That was one of the last times I cooked. At the time I was so angry.
Oh yes, that's another thing
Oh yes, that's another thing that infuriates me. I'll make something nice and she'll say, eh it needs something, and dump ranch dressing or hot sauce on it!!!
I personally would request
I personally would request she not be invited down to dinner anymore. Or DH can cook.
I dont eat with skids. EVER.
I dont eat with skids. EVER. THey live with us so I eat in my room every day.
Your DH is at fault for not
Your DH is at fault for not insisting on basic manners and gratitude for food on the table.
Yeah, teenagers are jerks, but if nobody pulls them up short, they continue to be bigger jerks. Sit up straight at the table. Try the food cooked for you; if you don't like it, don't eat it, but be respectful. Engage in simple conversation.
It's just not that hard, and your DH is doing her a great disservice.