:jawdrop: Middle aged SD called the other day to tell me how I should raise my children. She was indignant that I would not let my bio be her friend on facebook and that bio did not return her text messages. This is the same SD who along with her brother has refused to talk to their father for almost 3 years now.

In this conversation I was told so many ugly things that I am still in disbelief! I will try to fill you in a lttle at a time as to do it all at one time would be an astronomical effort. My feelings about the outcome are mixed as I will explain later.

I was repeatedly told that I was hateful, cold and mean throughout the entire conversation - primarily in an efort to demand that I let her have access to my bios who are still minors. ( That's a sure way to get your way - call the other person names LOL!!!!!)I informed her that as a parent I got to make the decisions about who my children associated with and that based upon how she had treated her father over the past few years I did not want them associating with her until she and her adult brother worked out their problems with their father. The topic of why she can not work on her relationship with her father desrves an entire blog on its own!

I did not respond to her continaul taunts that I was mean, cold and hateful but instead politely told her that she was not being allowed to associate with my bios because of her horrendous treatment of H, my bios, and myself over the past years. She denied doing ANYTHING. As I said earlier - she actually denied not talking to her father for the past few years! She said her father had not told me the truth about her not returning phone calls and messages!

She also denied snubbing my bios at the store last summer. She implied that my 17 year old was not telling the truth about that!

She then went on to tell me that I was driving a wedge between her and her father and my bios. I informed her that I was not the one that had decided to not talk to her father 3 years ago so she had started everything. It would be kinda hard to drive a wedge bigger than that one!

She then accused me of " everything always has to be about you". I asked her what she meant and she then stated that I would make decsions about her and her brother when they were little!
I asked for more specifics and this is what she told me............."WHEN WE WOULD LEAVE TO GO HOME FATHER WOULD MAKE US GO UP TO YOUR BEDROOM TO FIND YOU TO TELL YOU GOODBYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :jawdrop:

How horrible of me!!!!!! Slap the handcuffs on me and haul me off - my god what child abuse!!!!!

Really - she was serious as could be..... I am just dumbfounded. How in the world can a college educated woman believe that this is anything more than her father asking that she show common courtesy to the person whose house she had spent the weekend in ! We still remind our own bios to say goodbye to people when we leave somewhere(SHAME ON US - that is child abuse per adult SD :jawdrop: )

She then went on to complain that they had always had to tell me goodbye up in my room - that I had NEVER come come downstairs and told her goodbye!!!!! I had to laugh at this because I knew this was a bunch of crap - my god most of the time I rode with H to drop them off!

The fact that they could take such a mundane thing, twist it around, and then try to turn it into something sinsiter as adults simply blows my mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THIS IS SIMPLY CRAZYYYYY and I MEAN BIG TIME CRAZZZZY!!!!!!!!!!!!

I mean even if this was true, which it isn't, how in the world does this show that everything is all about me or that I made decisions about them - after all according to her version her father would tell her to come tell me goodbye - I didn't ask. Just saying.......

Based upon what else she said it is obvious to me that she has no real memories of her own of the past - just what she was told happended by BM. I sincerely doubt that she ever has an original thought of her own based upon everything she told me...... :?

There was so much more equally ridicoulous drivel spewed at me - still shaking my head at this.......

I told my H what SD said and he is speechless too. We do both agree that this is pathethic because it shows the level that they will stoop to to look for or make up things just to have something to complain about.

I would love to hear your take on this.....I'm still almost speechless over this particular statement.

I'll fill you in on the rest later. I could fill pages with the outrageous stuff she told me..................