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Lost Alone Mama's picture

I married a wonderful man 2 years ago, that I have known for 30 years or more. When we married I had two children and he has two children,he has custody two. So, we Blended....No one told me that this was going to be tough! Like, the lady who was talking about her Evil SD. I have one that is the about the same way. When JM and I start dating things were great, and he would tell me that my daughter was his dream daughter,because my SD was cool hearted with a wall since she was 3 years old.Her mother manipulated her into HATING her Dad and accueing, her father of sexual malustation, he was not guilty and has many story about this, so I made my impression of the their Mother.The Mother manipulate all kind of people. Well, to make a long story short my SD is now that some type of person.
Before, we got married she manipulate a friend into Lying about my daughter and it caused a WAR.Then she manipulated her father into that I don't have the authority to displine her when he's not home. I can't ask her to do chores or she tells her Daddy, I am being mean. I can't tell to pick-up her Motus pads and not to wash them in with the Laundry. Many of my clothes destoryed.I have had talk with her father,and he says he will take care of it, He thinks I am picking on his Daughter,So know when I talk about Daughter he picks on my Daughter and there is Division. I am so tired of this that I am to the point of giving-up, I feel Lost and alone. Another thing, My daughter has had a Bestfriend since 2nd Grades, my SD told her bestfriend a bunch of Crapp about my Daughter to manipulate her and know her bestfriend is so mad at her that they can't even be close anymore.All my SD is doing is using the bestfriend to get to her brother.

There is plenty more! but it would be a mile long. What do I do about the division between my Husband and myself?

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Lost Alone Mama's picture

Teri

evilsm's picture

Thats what we call it at my house your kid did this but your kid did that. I try not to have conversations with DH about SD if there is anything going on with the Bkids and vice versa. It just ends up being a pissing contest that neither one wins, you both just end up mad at each other and the problem is not solved. My advice to you Teri is to back off a bit, talk to your DH when you don't have an immediate emotional issue to deal with and let him know your feelings at that time. Give him a solution to think about, how the two of you together can help SD see the err of her ways. I would however let the girls figure out their own relationship for good or bad, you and DH being in the middle of the teens will only cause more friction. Hope this helps. Good luck and welcome!

~Evil

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius