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I HAVE ALOT OF QUESTIOS TONIGHT!

Lost Darter's picture

Submitted by Lost Darter on Tue, 04/29/2008 - 8:51pm

Life is really stressful right now and I just need to vent!!! I am wondering if anyone has ever adopted and can share the process. I had a histerectomy three years ago because I had cancer. My dh and I have talked about adopting ALOT! He has his the kids and I have always wanted to have children. It was my mistake that I could try to make his family my family, the teen skids just don't really want anything to do with me. I'm really not sure why! Especialliy when their own mother says I am better for them then she ever was. However, she still wants custody back so she can get her paycheck. Well anyway, my dh and I have started a new life and would like to start a new family and since I can't do it adoption is our next option. Any past experiences with the process would be appreciated.

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sparky's picture

Submitted by sparky on Tue, 04/29/2008 - 9:01pm

I don't have any experience with adoption. I do know people that have gone out of USA and adopted babies because they could get them so quickly.

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Submitted by Karma_ on Wed, 04/30/2008 - 1:40am

I don't have experience with the process in your country, but I am an adopted child. What I can tell you is that if an adoption does happen for you, your child will love you whole-heartedly and in just the same way as if you were their biological parent, even if you make mistakes (like we all do).

All the very best in your search for your child.

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Submitted by Sita Tara on Wed, 04/30/2008 - 7:18am

I have friends who have done both. I have seen both work amazingly well, but have seen more positives with foreign adoption. But unlike sparky's experience my friend's foreign adoptions were more expensive and took a long time. So whichever you want to do, I would start asap because the process is long either way.

I think that children who come here from another country have an amazing appreciation of their adoptive parents too. I know a woman who adopted two girls from India, and another couple who adopted a brother and sister from Ethiopia (and are awaiting their third PLUS they have four kids of their own- they are SAINTS.)

Anyway, good luck!

“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks

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Submitted by ColorMeGone2 on Wed, 04/30/2008 - 7:27am

Have you considered fostering? My cousin and her husband have been foster parents for many years and adopted two babies that were placed with them for foster care. Now, not every kid who lands on your doorstep is intended to be there permanently, but there are so many children out there who need good homes.

♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 04/30/2008 - 8:57am

There are so many kids out there who need a good home, especially if you don't have your heart set on a baby. My sister is a foster parent and is starting the process to adopt two foster children. They came to her when they were 18 months and 3.5 years. They are really good kids who just had bad parents.