FDH & I have only spoken once since we had a huge argument last Saturday about his son. And when we did talk, he again refused to put the blame on anyone but me. He asked if this is how it's going to be, me not calling him or trying to 'fix' the situation and I told him yes, until HE learned to be a parent and stand up to his son and start backing me. I went on to say that him and his son were more of a couple than him & I were and that at this point, I didn't know what WE were. And also told him this is the reason why I will NOT move into his house yet and why I have taken my house of the market.

He said that this disengaging has got to stop and I told him it would when he started parenting. The unfortunate part, it's probably too late. His son will be 18 in a couple of weeks. I sent him an article that I found on the internet on why I felt this was my only option and what he had to do to make it stop, told him to read without being closed minded and defensive. We'll see, I just sent it yesterday.

Sometimes I am just ready to throw it all in and say forget it, this is not worth it. But the thing that stops me is that I do love him. Lately though I don't respect him very much because of how he lets his kids treat him, me and the rest of his family. His kids leave tomorrow to go back to BM's house for the week, so we'll see if he calls me to talk about all this. But like I've told him before, he can 'talk' all he wants, until I see 'action' my mind will not be changed.