Ok so check this out... every year DH and I go do the best we can to satisfy all the kids Christmas demands. This year I was able to get a seasonal job at a retail chain store which helped with that. I did all the Christmas shopping, hubby provided money here and there. everything was going good. Well before I knew it, I had spent over 300 bucks on my SD. oops So we had to figure out a way to send it and that cost another arm and leg cuz she doesn't live in the continental 48. The package is sent in the largest box the post office could find and was well.... so it seemed.

(note: the box also had a gift for the family, and each of her brothers(Hubby's Ex's sons))

husband... being a little of a practical joker, called SD and told her that her Christmas box is on its way and to watch for it because its a very small box, the size of a brick. They laughed and she said thank you, said I love yous and hung up. About an hour later, DH gets a text from BM asking him why does SD get a small box when his "other kids" get a bunch of gifts? Now I wanted to believe that she was just asking out of concern for our financial stability, but i doubt it.

I know she felt dumb when SD got her box!

Not long after we took family pictures and they came out great. BM saw them on FB and asked if SD will be getting some. I told her of course, we have a few wallets and a 5x7 set aside to send with her birthday box. She responded with " oh, I wanted some big ones to put up in her room." Um....o....k... I told her that the only big ones we have are 8x10's and a huge one that we bought for us. She said "well just email them to me and I'll print them out. I told her no, we will figure something out. I did manage to print SD some 8x10s.

So.... last summer when we had SD for a month, BM agreed that this summer she would pay for half the ticket. This chick tried to back out!!! First she was saving the money up, then she said SD cant go cuz she only got 300 dollars saved!!!! what the heck? I called her and asked her what the deal was and she throws in my face that every time they come to cali to visit, SD gets time with her dad and he never once paid for her ticket, so why should she have to pay half now? I explain to her that it would be a bitch move of her to keep their daughter away from her father when they all were within miles of one another. They were here visiting BM's family, why can't DH get a day or two? And lets not forget the fact that you agreed!!! So we get her to send what she has and the next day she ask DH if she can stay for two months this time. Of course we said yes, super ecstatic and start planning her fly dates. We clear it with BM and she says sure one day, then the next day she asks us if we can shorten her stay by 2 and a half weeks cuz she wanted her to be able to go on a road trip with them. We said we will make it work, then I guess her plans with that fell through so our original dates were still good. At that time we hurry and book her flights so BM can't interfere with our plans. So her dates are locked and about a week later I see post on BM's FB that says her inlaws are coming to visit in the summer. I message her and ask if SD's visit is still on and she basically was sad, but said her trip is still on.... but check this out, a few days after I get a message telling me that SD has been acting out and she wants to scare her into being good and is threatening her with her trip, saying that if she doesn't act right she can't go and has to pay back the money. She asks me for the itinerary/ receipt so she could show her the cost..... now that seems like she wants to know how much SHE would have to pay us back to keep her there. idk.