SS broke my soap dispenser...
You know, the pretty kind that you can buy to be a part of a set that matches your shower curtain? Yeah, that one. (I bought that stuff before H and I were married. So yes, it is MY stuff.)
Naturally, SS couldn't be bothered to tell anyone. I had to be surprised all by myself.
First I showed it to H to see if he knew anything about it. Nope. I then handed him the pieces with a curt, "Your son must have done it then." He then asked SS if he did it and out came a long diatribe about how it got broken. Then my H, true to form, comes over to me and starts making excuses for how it got broken.
I just looked at him and said, "I'm not interested in excuses or explanations. I bought it at Kohl's. They may still have it. I expect to have a new one."
Then I left to take the dog for a walk.
I see that H is trying to fix the old one?
Whatever.
I can't wait for SS to go the f*ck home.
I can't wait for H to grow a set of f*cking balls.
OF COURSE NO ONE HAS APOLOGIZED TO ME!
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That would piss me off.. We
That would piss me off..
We have a rule in my home. If one of the skids breaks something of mine, SO replaces it..no excuses! If he doesn't or comes up with stupid excuses and its time to transfer my portion of the mortgage, well the amount it costs to replace an item one of the skids breaks, will not be part of the money transfer. Simple as that.
Are we supposed to sit there and accept it? Oh skid broke (said item), because (insert 100 excuses). And we are supposed to just smile and say ok and be fine with it? F**k that!
^ AWESOME way to handle it!
^ AWESOME way to handle it! If I paid any portion of the mortgage, or even had a job, I would consider this. As it is, I graduate in 3 weeks (yay!!) and can't get a job fast enough!!!
I totally expect either the old one to be fixed or a new one to be bought. SS can pay for it.
(((SIGH))) I'm so sick of
(((SIGH)))
I'm so sick of this shit.
4.5 more hours before this kid goes back to The Vagina.
I cannot f*cking wait.
this pisses me off. why do
this pisses me off. why do the brats think they own everything that is ours? what's worse is when the dad gives them permission to take our stuff. like when fdh told his asshole kid she could use my camera. don't bother to ask me, anyone! it's only MINE! then when i needed it for a graduation, i couldn't find it. she had hidden it in her room to make sure it was there the next time she came over and wanted to take pictures of herself half naked, with a ton of make up on (my make up) her bra stuffed and posing provocatively on my exercise ball for her my space page. :jawdrop: the dumb bitch didn't even have enough sense to delete the pics off my camera after taking them. i told fdh she was never to touch anything of mine again. well, she never touched my camera again. but apparently everything else was still fair game.
They think it because their
They think it because their parents allow them to think it. Makes me f*cking sick to my stomach is what it does.
According to someone's else
According to someone's else SO (can't remember who) it is YOUR fault it got broke. After all, YOU left it out. LOL
(in reference to the spilled coffee)
That was my H who thinks that
That was my H who thinks that way.
Riiiiiight. We shouldn't have a soap dispenser in the bathroom. Who needs to wash their hands. I mean, just so long as SS isn't held responsible when anything gets broke.
Put him in a f*cking padded room then.
I would lose my sh*t if my H gave something of mine to the skids without asking me first. Wait, what am I talking about? He does it all the time....
I had a similar experience to
I had a similar experience to bi, when DH loaned SD17 my camera for the day, without asking me. So recently, I bought a nice portable DVD player, that you can charge up for 5 hours use and play anywhere. So the SDs have just gone to Spain for 10 days with NPD BM - and the last time they were here before they went, it was "oh, its going to be SO boring in Spain - if only we had a DVD player we could take". I just ignored these heavy hints because sure as hell the thing would come back broken, if at all, if I lent it to them. DH claims he didn't notice them hinting. Yeah, whatever.
they were taking a trip to
they were taking a trip to spain and were worried about your dvd player? :O OMG, these little wenches are never f'g satisfied. EVER. going on a trip, but still trying to find a way to take something of sm's with them. unbelievable.
That is exactly what I'm
That is exactly what I'm thinking. Umm. You are going to SPAIN and you're worried about being able to watch movies?? SERIOUSLY?? Holy crap.
I just had to have a talk
I just had to have a talk with H about would he expect an apology if someone broke something of his. He said yes. So I asked him why I don't qualify as being worthy of an apology? He said that I am worthy of an apology. Then I asked, then how come no one has apologized to me for breaking my stuff.
I went on to say, "Spilling something is just spilling something and breaking something is just breaking something. Neither are a big deal. However, when the act is HIDDEN and/or comes with a bunch of excuses and no apology then it becomes something a whole lot bigger than it needs to be."
I told him that it's not fair that I have to ASK for an apology, because it makes me look and feel like a total asshole for having *the nerve* to think that I am owed an apology.
He said that he would talk to SS about apologizing to me. By now, I don't even want it. Seriously. Is it even a sincere apology at this point? An apology that I had to ASK for? SS is almost 11 years old for f*cks sake. He breaks something and he HIDES it and then he has to be FORCED to apologize for breaking something that belongs to someone else?? :sick:
I also asked him why he is ok with his kid behaving as though he has zero personal responsibility. He said that he is not ok with his kid acting that way. So then I asked him why he doesn't do anything about it? Because doing nothing about it means that you ARE ok with it (duh).
I mean, this kid doesn't even feel like he has to clean up after himself. SS finished off a gallon of milk and rather than taking care of the empty carton, he just put it in the sink. WTF? Is that how The Vagina is raising him???? :sick:
When my SS16 throws a temper
When my SS16 throws a temper tantrum (can't control his anger) it is ALWAYS something of mine that gets broken.
1. Not happy that we called him out for doing a craptastic job on washing dishes (i.e. do them again) - my kitchen faucet handle gets broken off. It was fixable - with a small part - but you guessed it - it leaks now and I will need a new faucet in the next few months
2. Angry about some other slight? go slam your door into the wall - putting a hole right thru the wall.
3. Some thing else set him off - breaks the wood blinds in his room (as in snapped on of the slats in 1/2)
4. Pissed about being grounded to your room? rub gross dirt and who knows what on to the wall by your bed, and use a pen to outline the wall outlets and draw on the wall
etc etc etc
When he broke the kitchen faucet I told DH, boy needed to go with and see just how expensive new ones are - because if/when I need a new one that boy is paying for it.
Doesn't matter. Never apologized. still a dickhead.
I can imagine that this is
I can imagine that this is what my life would be like if SS lived here. Thankfully, he doesn't. His visits here are bad enough.
You know, the kid wouldn't have as many problems if he were actually being PARENTED!
And then I become the asshole for pointing out that the kid isn't being parented. EVERYONE can see that the kid has HORRIBLE manners and ZERO social skills and that he is ALWAYS seeking to be the #1 attention no matter what else is going on. EVERYONE can see that this kid has ZERO personal responsibility. Yet, no one actually f*cking DOES anything about it??
I. do. not. understand. at. all.
3 hours after the broken item was found and STILL no apology. 1 hour after me ASKING H for an apology -- and STILL no apology.
F*ck this sh*t.
I see a baseball mit that is itching to get thrown in the trash if it isn't picked up when SS is taken back to The Vagina.
I would do it front of
I would do it front of him...Or break something of his, on "accident" of course. }:)
Don't think that I am not
Don't think that I am not tempted to do just that.
Oh, LRP, that is just rotten!
Oh, LRP, that is just rotten! I would be livid. I'm so sorry your DH & SS are such utter trogs. I'd give you a piece of cake and a glass of wine through the computer if I could.
My SD hung off the towel
My SD hung off the towel racks and RIPPED THEM OUT OF THE WALL yeah, like ripped part of the WALL out of the wall two huge holes. Stole the only thing I had from my greatgrandmother after she died (a deck of uno cards, thats all I got) and SD stole it from my jewelry box then LOST half the cards - I found the cards (old, frayed cards GGM had for YEARS) tucked behind her dresser, in her closet, just lost everywhere. She stole and broke my only necklace that was on a chain, she spilled red Kool-Aide down the stairs and simply did not tell us and did not try to even clean it up, so to this day, I have Kool-Aide pink stains all down the stairs (which are right in front of the front door facing the door...) she broke my wedding frame photo pulling it off the mantle when she was 7, oh she put metal in the microwave and broke that too at 8, and now after years of no problem with doors, she cannot figure out how to shut the door or forgets to shut the door to the laundry room where we keep the trashcan, so the dog gets in the trash...yeah. I don't get anything anymore that can be broken between the Skid and the dog and the very elderly cat.
It's just more annoying when its not your own. Sorta like my dog - I had a friends dog and it pissed the floor and got into stuff and god I hated it and would be so mad, whereas when my dog pissed the floor I said "aww poor mommy's boy needed go peepee and we didnt take him out in time" or "aw him got into the trash and I hope he doesn't get sick" whereas with the friend's dog, I was simply pissed the dumb dog got into stuff and broke stuff or drug out the trashbag.
I don't know how I didn't see
I don't know how I didn't see your comment before.
Yeah, your SD sounds a LOT like how my skids used to act. They were outright destructive!! It was INSANE!
I'm so sorry for all of your stuff that got broken.
4.5 more hours before this
4.5 more hours before this kid goes back to The Vagina. <------------------- This is the best thing eeevvveeeerrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel like if I posted this everyone would say, "WHY ARE YOU SO MAD OVER A SOAP DISPENSER!?" hahahaha!
And then I would say, "Because it was MINE! I have two things left - MY BED and MY SOAP DISPENSER! BUT with STEPS you CAN'T HAVE NICE THINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!"
"And then I would say,
"And then I would say, "Because it was MINE! I have two things left - MY BED and MY SOAP DISPENSER! BUT with STEPS you CAN'T HAVE NICE THINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!"
HAHAHA!!! EXACTLY!!!
It's just about having my things respected. Accidents happen, I get it. I am NOT an ogre (regardless of how my H wants to make me appear). I don't flip a wig over accidents. I DO, however, flip a wig over carelessness combined with rudeness. I was raised in such a way that I was taught that even if something was an accident, I was still responsible for it. Even if it was an accident, I still had to replace it. Lying about it, trying to cover it up, or not taking responsibility for it were the offenses. NOT accidents.
All I wanted was an apology and for SS to take responsibility. He is NEVER held accountable. He is a HUGE, HUGE manipulator and is allowed to come up with 12,000 excuses as to why he is not responsible for whatever he just did. It's bullshit.
I look at SS and want to vomit. I know exactly what kind of "man" he is being raised to be and it makes me sick.
And what I do NOT understand is that, typically (outside of this situation with SS), my H is NOT that person! He is Mr. Honest - doesn't even tell a white lie or exaggerate a story. He is super responsible. But for some reason when SS is around he becomes Mr. Spineless Wonder. I do not f*cking get it.
And as far as calling BM,
And as far as calling BM, "The Vagina."
Welp, this is where she feels all of her power is. It's all she thinks she has. It also happens to be where she is teaching her daughters to have their power. For BM, it's all about getting knocked up and using the fathers for C.S. It's all about being hyper-sexual and manipulating men with sex.
Her other daughter (not my SD and not my H's child), has been wearing booty shorts and cleavage shirts since she was 12. At the age of 12 that child was also getting her hair professionally streaked and was wearing a ton of make-up. When I first met that child, I almost fell out of my chair when I learned that she was only 12 years old. She looked like she was 17. I'm not kidding, I thought she was MUCH older! If I thought that, imagine what men are thinking....
BM also let this same child stay out until 4:30a.m. at the age of 15 when she went to a senior prom with a boy that was 18.
Yup.
It's allllllll about the power of the The Vagina.
F*cking disgusting way to raise a girl now-days.
If I had my own daughter, I would empower her to be true to herself and to respect herself. That sex was not a tool to use to get love.
It makes me so sad....