Ever find yourself in a situation where you have an idea in the back of your mind what you want to say, but you just can't quite put it into words?
Here's the scenario, it's DH's sister's 21st birthday next Saturday and she has invited us on a night out, me and DH haven't been out properly since before I got pregnant, so he asked SD's mother if it was ok if we didn't have her on Saturday night, which she was cool with at first. When DH told her that it was because his sister invited him out (may I add at this point that his sister and BM don't get along), BM suddenly conveniently remember that she had made plans to go out for her birthday that weekend even though her birthday is the week after.
She is now trying to guilt trip DH into looking after SD saying that she has no one to babysit and his sister has found out what she has done, so now they are practically starting a war with each other and DH is stressing because he is stuck in the middle of it all.
I feel like telling them both just to get a grip and stop being so spiteful by putting him in an awkward position just because they don't like each other, but I feel that if I do that it may make the situation worse which I don't want to happen. I need to find the right advice to give to help DH without it sounding like he is trying to take sides.