Act like your three that will get you somewhere
Must vent my frustration here. I have talked about bm letting my SS get away with anything, giving in to his con's and his whinning. Well No matter how I say it it seems that the whine comes out when someone is around. Well last night his sister wanted to stay at a friends house I let her she is 9 he is 6 he didn't get to sooooo.. I NEVER GET TO STAY ANY WHERE. boo hoo feel sorry for me. I didn't I told him YOur dad isnt ready for you to stay the night somewhere. pout pout stomp stomp boo hoo.
we get to my grandmothers house to pick up my bs. My gma makes dinner for us. I get i am not hungry boo hoo stomp stomp pout pout. WE got home after this and boy was he unhappy when I grounded him for his ridiculous behaivor reminding him that BOOhoo stop stomp pout pout only gets him in trouble. WiLL this ever stop.
Bm always gave into him cause it was easier to just give him what he wanted and send him on his way. SS knew this and played it to the fullest. now he is trying it where he knows it doesnt work. I will not be the bad guy here. his mother wants to shut him up and I want to teach him. I can't wait to get a lawyer and get this ball a rollin.
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I don't know that a lawyer will solve this problem.
The court might just look upon this as a mere difference of parenting styles. This is also something a lot of 6-year-old kids do. I remember doing it when I was 6 very clearly! I think he's just testing his limits, as all kids do (they also do it at 12 and 14 too). He might also be jealous of BS because he gets love from his BM every day; whereas his BM just up and left him. Maybe he should receive counseling for that, as you said in your bio that your skids can sense what is going on. My parents were divorced too and I used to try to get away with stuff at Dad's that I knew I couldn't get away with at Mom's. Dad and Mom quickly caught onto this and I never did it again.
I think it's going to take your being consistent with him. This is going to take a lot of patience (I know from experience with my SDs). It won't be accomplished overnight, but if you keep on being consistent, SS should be making progress fairly soon.
This is a vent.
I treat all my kids the same step or bio.In my home which is most of the times the kids are all the same to me. MY KIDS.he knows that we have a different parenting style he knows what to expect from us. we are very consistant and thats how we like it. they need it. As I understand it he was doingthis at his mothers to get exactly what he wanted from her cause everytime he decided he want something he threw his little tantrum and punta gave in to him to shut him up cause thats what parenting is to her. He never has done this before going there. the second he walked in the door his demands were crazy and something that were very unlike him. I found out from SD what had happened over the summer when SS got told he couldnt or no. yeah she is such a great parent. sorry she has done nothing but hurt the kids over the years.
we are taking her to court because of the stress it has on the kids and some things that have happened over the years. This year she was drugging ss with benodryl instead of his perscription. Because she didn't have any insurance for them. I explained to her that I would send his medication if she needed more. (he has asthma) I explained the importance of him taking his perscribed medication daily, So everyday she was giving him benedryl which is not what he is suppose to be doing to treat his ashma.it just knocks him out. thats just one of many things that happened. Somethings I can't say because its just going to set me off, and I will never stop. We are getting custody changed so that they are not at their mother for over a month in the summer and a week during breaks. to avoid this mistreatment they have had documented over the years.
I'm sorry!
In no way was I trying to criticize you. I don't think what BM is doing is right either and I apologize if my post came across as defending her or criticizing you.
I have asthma as well so I know all too well how important it is for those with asthma (or anything that requires medication) to take their prescribed medication. It's a shame that BM cannot realize that too. I think it's great that you're getting custody changed because it seems like BM is a very destructive influence to these kids. That's great that you consider your skids yours, I consider my skids to be mine too :).