I married the man of my dreams...but he had 2 kids.  I was single, with no children. Everything was great in the beginning. Both boys and I quickly formed bonds and everyone got along extremely well. Until bioMom came back.  She was gone, for years she had not seen the boys. By the time I met them, they were 9 and 10 years old. They had bubbly personalities,were fun to be around, mature for their ages, could hold a conversation about politics (and they knew what they were talking about) and so loveable. Once bioMom found out her ex (my now husband) had found a younger, hot girlfriend (ME!) she took him to court. She gained partial custody for 2 days, every other weekend. That wasn't good enough. 6 months later, we were back in court. She gained 3 days every other weekend.

My fiance and I announced we were getting married! Everyone was thrilled, including the boys! BioMom was furious. She took him back to court. She always filed for crazy reasons... We took clothes from the older kid and gave them to the younger kid (most people call this hand-me-downs), we refused to let them eat whatever they wanted (yes, we make them eat vegetables), we "forced both boys to do chores, causing physical and emotional harm" (yes, it seriously said this) 4 days before our wedding, we were worried she would gain more time with the children. I should mention the boys and our situation with BioMom was diagnosed as Extreme Parental Alienation. She was literally poisoning the children against their father and myself. Court came, and the judge decided Mom and Dad needed to "grow up and get along". Right...how do you get along with a toxic narssist? With her, no matter what you say or do, you are wrong. BioMom yet again, gained more time with the children. The youngest would refuse to go to Moms house. BioMom and the boyfriend (she had an affair with my husbands friend and this caused the divorce) heavily smoked with the kids in the house and there was no door on the bathroom. But, the judge forced him to go. 

Wedding day... Wow, this was the best day of my life! My youngest stepson was my Man of Honor. He walked me down the aisle and couldn't stop looking at me and smiling. I would smile and kiss his forehead, holding hands as we walked to the altar. My fiance stood there with my oldest stepson, he was his Best Man, smiling ear to ear. The day was beautiful. We were now married! 

 BioMom refused to acknowledge me. Over the last year and a half, my husband and I had tried to introduce me to BioMom on multiple occasions, but she continued to ignore my existence. BioMom would continue to tell the children lies about my husband and me. She continued to try and destroy the life we had built.  She continued to poison the boys minds against their father. Claiming he was abusive and an overall bad Dad. One of the first things I loved about my husband was, what an amazing Dad he was. Especially since he initially raised these boys alone. 

4 months later, she took us back to court. BioMom and Dad were forced to take a KidsFirst class on parenting. Dad passed and BioMom did not. But, that did not seem to matter in court. Now, my husband was forced to pay for a Guardian Ad Litem (Twice!)! The GAL came to our house and hers. He met with both the boys. He spoke with multiple family members. Once he disagreed with BioMom, he felt her wrath. She would call the GAL and give daily updates. She even told the oldest son that "This is the last time I am taking your father to court, and he would be forced to pay!" It was all about the money with her. The oldest came home in tears, upset about the things BioMom was discussing with him on the weekends. We went back to court. The guardian said it would be easier on the boys, if BioMom had Primamy Custody. He thought she would stop taking the boys Dad back to court if she (yet again) gained more time with the boys and had child support. Let me just say, she has never worked a day in her life. The judge decided to give Mom more time with the boys and to have joint custody. BioMom was still not happy. She wanted child support. 

Over a year later...

BioMom left her boyfriend. She moved into her Mothers house. She put her Mom in a nursing home, against her Mother and her families wishes. When the boys are at their "Grandmothers house" with BioMom, all they do is watch tv, play on tablets with un-restricted internet and eat junk food. BioMom shares one bedroom with both the boys (although the trailer has 3 bedrooms) They have 3 twin mattress lined up and Mom sleeps between the teenage boys. Both family counselors see no problem with this. Yes, we have all been seeing 2 family counselors for over a year. They see the problems, but dont address them. BioMom continues to poison the boys against their Dad and myself. We constantly get threats to "go back to court".

Neither child is who they once were, they are no longer happy. The youngest has turned into "Mini Mom" . Now, the youngest and BioMom gang up on the oldest boy and try and turn him against us. The boys are now 13 and 14. They should be hanging out with friends and thinking about driving soon. They are only allowed to see their friends when they are at our house. BioMom will not allow them to get a summer job, but we pay them to do extra work around our house. Unfortunately, the more time they spend with BioMom, they regress. They leave our house as happy, somewhat responsible teens. They come home acting like they are 3 and 4 years old. Coloring on the counters, carving words into the walls, having meltdowns- throw themselves on the floor temper tantrums, calling us names, constantly screaming and arguing, etc. I no longer know who these kids are. I simply do not recognize them.