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Parent/Teacher didn't go so well

Mantra_Momma's picture

Submitted by Mantra_Momma on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 4:11pm

I couldn't go with DH to the parent/teacher conference this morning, but I just read the "report" she sent home on SD7. In essence, it was not good. She talks about SD7 having a really short attention span, she fidgets with things at her desk while the class is participating in oral exercises, she constantly asks to go to the bathroom so she's missing important time in class, her reading level is behind the other kids, and then a few other educational problems. All of the things listed are not surprising to me because I've noticed them for a while now but DH and BM never seemed to do anything about it.

Well after today DH says "I guess we have to think of some ideas on how to help her". I don't want SD7 to have troubles in school, but using the word "we" is exactly why I've been feeling the way I have lately about SD. I'm expected to step in and do all the things a mom would do, yet SD could care less. I get so tired of things being expected of me. I'm at the point where I just want to do what you all call disengage, and now DH says this. Whenever I had opinions on these things before it didn't seem to matter much, so why am I being involved now?

What would you say to DH?

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buttercup123's picture

Submitted by buttercup123 on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 4:17pm

Tell him how you feel. Tell him you're tired of making an effort for nothing. Tell him you want to see him make an effort and come up with ways to help his daughter and to implement them. You will then step in and give your opinion. It isn't your responsibility to do it all. It's his child and she needs his help. He needs to be a man and step up.

Have him take her to the doctor. Having to use the bathroom frequently could be a sign of something serious like diabetes. Maybe he should get her a tutor. If he can't commit the time then get someone who can.

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Sat, 10/31/2009 - 9:27am

Like buttercup said. Tell him, he doesn't take your advise to you will not offer any. You could help enfore, if you needed/wanted to help but let him come up with the ideas.