First of all, yay, a fellow Canadian!! This happens to me all the time! I am always going out of my way to find things that will help SD with her obvious emotional problems, like things we can do at home, or techniques to help her better express her feelings, but usually my FH denies she has any problems, or even if he acknowledges it, he won't have anything to do with it, and I'm left to deal with her on my own. Of course SD never says thank you for anything I do. The emotional support, being the only one who believes her, sticks up for her when I feel there is a real problem, etc. So there's that...

Also my FH and I have a boat, and they take tons of work, so sometimes on weekends we will go down and work on the boat. It seems, though, whenever he has SD that he will say to me that we will all go together but then they will get up early and get ready and leave to go to the boat without even telling me until they are almost out the door. When I ask him about it, he says that he's just getting her out of my hair so I can relax, and to spend time with just her. I get the spending time together, since I'm the one who usually brings it up and suggests things he can do with her. But, then tell me ahead of time that you're planning to go just with her and not me.

Two weeks ago they went to see her cousin's football game without me (I didn't want to go) and were supposed to come home right after for dinner...well I made dinner but they never showed...like 8 hours later I called FH to see where they were and they had gone to his mother's after the game for dinner. I asked why they didn't call me to let me know so I wouldn't cook or maybe see if I wanted to come (I love my FMIL and always want to see her) and he said he thought I would be happier just relaxing at home alone not having to see SD...ok fine I do enjoy the house to myself without her, but shouldn't that me by decision? When I said that to FH he apologized and said that from now on he'd ask me first...guys can just be thick sometimes. I think you should tell your husband how you feel. He probably didn't mean to be insensitive. Guys sometimes take things for granted and need to be reminded of all you do for them that they don't necessarily see.