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is it normal...

Mich811's picture

for a seven year old to need a parent's help in wiping his butt after he poops?

(honestly i can't believe some of the things i need to ask from time to time).

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NachoMama's picture

I am sorry....I can't help you because I am laughing too hard! Are you serious????
AND I also pictured the kid in Big Daddy just now....But I wipe my own ass!!!!

****I can do bad all by myself****

Mich811's picture

Yes, I am totally serious (but laughing).

We will be sitting in the living room at the end of a hard day, enjoying a glass of wine, when we hear "daaaaaddddd...." in a gutteral tone from the bathroom. i honestly don't even know what to say to my dh about this, because it seems so over the top to me.

stormabruin's picture

I'd let him sit there until he figures out. If he doesn't do it right, his butt will let him know, & he'll get it right the next time. LOL!

HennyPen's picture

who is wiping his butt in school!!?! not the teachers, that's for sure. He's a little old for that nonsense, IMO.

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Thetis's picture

I have no idea.

I have seen my friend's kids go through potty training and be done by age two. But I have heard of kids not being able to go without help up to like age 6.

At least he uses the toilette. Sd 4 still poops herself.

Thetis's picture

Yea weird like "its easier to wipe his ass instead of teaching him how to."

Sd just started learning how to wipe herself a couple months ago. She still does it backwards. I think I'm the only one who tells her otherwise. Dh is a guy, so he really doesn't understand, and Bm would rather do everything for Sd instead of having to teach her something.

stormabruin's picture

Not having the control to hold it may take longer for some than others, but at 7, there's no reason he shouldn't be able to wipe himself. He just hasn't been made to do it.

Mich811's picture

i had the same thought. can you imagine how a teacher would respond?

apparently he "worries" that he doesn't "get it all". i truly don't know what to say. i want DH to stay a mile away from me when he returns from doing the deed, that is for sure.

NachoMama's picture

Maybe he needs some baby wipes! I keep those on the back of our toilet....just in case! Wink

****I can do bad all by myself****

Mich811's picture

oh, that's a great idea! i have never thought of that, but i'm going to try that this weekend. honestly, my dh is a good guy and he means well, but i think our household is a very strange one.

HennyPen's picture

they even have flushable wipes now.

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... why would you feel worthless and weak? You gave everything, your entire heart.. giving it to him. To truly give your heart, your trust, is taking the bravest of all risks--C.Young

stormabruin's picture

I would advise you be careful with the wipes you get. A lot of the baby wipes are not meant to flush! (I know from experience...:()

They do make wipes that are okay to flush, but not typically the "baby" ones.

no fairytale's picture

My Stepfather always brings wet wipes for himself when they stay.....wonder if he has the same problem...LOL Wink

stormabruin's picture

LOL!

Mich811's picture

haha!

herewegoagain's picture

It depends on the child...I am with my kiddo 24/7 and I can guarantee you that I have taught him...he is super good about washing his hands each and every time he goes to the bathroom...but wiping, well, he's good 90% of the time...He is delayed in some ways because of his autism/developmental disabilities...so I would check if there's anything like that going on with your husband's child...sigh...

Soon2bSM2SD's picture

SD8 still has problems too. My BF gets her the the flushable wipes made just for this. I don't know how she misses anything though because she uses half a roll of TP and I'm not joking.

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Mich811's picture

Oh, interesting. Thanks for weighing in, that helps to know. I've always heard that girls are much faster with this (and my SD is 5 and NEVER has an issue -- I can't remember her having an issue with it, maybe back when she was 2-3?) so it is good to know that it isn't totally off the charts odd.

Elizabeth's picture

I would say this is just laziness and wanting some attention from daddy (weird way to get it, I know). My BD is 6 and the only time she needs help is when she has diarrhea. I just help her and don't say anything about it because ALL the other times she is fine.

Fading's picture

I don't think it's normal at all. But SD is five and she can't wipe her own bum yet either. So finally instead of DH going, I went in and MADE her do it until the TP came out clean. She cried because "she couldn't reach". I told her if a midget can wipe their own rear so can you (no offense to midgets). Normally she just doesn't wipe AT ALL and ends up with skid marks in her panties. :sick:

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