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Submitted by milak on Fri, 07/12/2013 - 2:54am

Problem is the 2 kids (13yr old boy & 8 yr old girl) from his second marriage, they visit too often. Every weekend & every school holiday are with us. I dont have my space in my house. Alwys following their father whenever & wherever he goes. They are fine shame they don't have nonsenses but I don't like always having them around.They stay with their bio mother but she hates me a lot. She goes around saying nasty & hurtful things about me. She once said to the social workers I hate & mistreats her kids, I will kill them by pouring a poison to their kids, I have AIDS, I must not touch or wash her girl,e.t.c. Now someone told me that she is saying that she will always drive her kids to our house just to make me tired so that I can divorce him. Now the kids are in my house since 14 June and will go home in the 28 July coz their bio mother is in a course somewhere she is a police woman by the way. I am so tired of them in my house I really hate becoz of their mother and these kids know a lot about me because their bio mother is saying wrong things about me to them. I hate myself, I hate my marriage & I really feel like going out

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Submitted by milak on Mon, 07/15/2013 - 2:49am

Thanks. My husband doesn't see things my way. I have complained to him about his kids visits & suggested that they should at least skip a weekend and then visit the other weekend he did not agree saying that he cant say no to his kids when they want to see him and talked about the diet they get from us is not what they get from their bio mother meaning ours is better but whose problem is that? Living is expensive, he is maintaining the kids every month with R1500 but the kids are almost staying with us then what is he maintaining? definately bio mother. I'm buying groceries,paying rates,buying electricity, paying for his cars. I am doing almost everything and he is letting his kids to stay with us & the boy eats too much shame (He can finish a loaf of bread alone (14 slice in one go)) . He is taking me for granted, he has the final word no matter what I say or suggest. He is like having two wives and 2 houses and bio mother is controlling his life. Well I am tired with all of this. I know I married him knowing he has kids but I didn't know that it will be like this. Court said kids must visit in reasonable times. It is not always reasonable. I need my space, I will be fine aloneand stay in peace with my only daughter I don't need him or a man. Step kids destroy marriages. Love is so lost between us

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Submitted by milak on Tue, 07/16/2013 - 8:44am

The worst part now BM is no longer coming back on the 28 July as she told her kids but on 2 August, how is that? How must I feel and react to my Husband now? I wake up early, make them cereal, make their lunch for school still prepare for my hubby, myself for work and my little one. Too much for me I am not used to that doing all that whilst their BM is having fun somewhere. I can't take it anymore. BM does not communicate with anyone(esp. ex-husband) she just do as she pleases and my Hubby is letting her do that, control him and our lives. What do anyone suggest I must do?