I think I just need to say it in a safe space...

I think BM is doing SS's school work. This kid has had had straight F's (save PE) for 2 years now. BM has never been able to enforce any type of discipline with this kid in 12 years and he has always fought school work tooth and nail. I don't think all that magically changed day 1 of quarantine. SS was serving a suspension from school when all this happened. Now he magically has 100% on every assignment? Don't get me wrong, the kid is smart and capable of earning all A's, but has serious authority and learned behavior issues. I'm sure getting him out of the school of enviroment was beneficial... I just don't believe that it was a complete 180 overnight. And DH is so proud now of SS's good grades. I think I just needed to get that out. I can't bring myself to point out what I think is obvious to DH, I'm doing my best to stay disengaged.

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Can you imagine the pathetic

Can you imagine the pathetic scene of BM logging in to do your ss12 middle school assignments for him? I think this is the definition of what they call "snowplow parenting." why don't parents realize that doing things for your kids does not help them one bit?

I've no doubt she would

I've no doubt she would anything to keep him from experience a negative consequence! I honestly hoped he'd flunk this year. Not in a malicious way, but something, anything, to possibly help him see the consequences of his actions. I'm pretty sure they would've held him back if he had finished out the year at school. I would just rather see him experience it now, then fail later on. It's like watching a train wreck you can't stop.

I'm sure the teachers noticed

I'm sure the teachers noticed too. I doubt you're alone. And I doubt he's the only child with a grade boost with all this home learning.

I though it was hilarious thte vacation when sd came back from bm's house with her reading log completed. Only BM had filled it in and SD had apparently spent hours reading the dictionary. I did check with sd but she told me she hadn't been reading it. I just left sd to take it into class. If her mother was willinng to sign her name to such obvioius lies it wasn't my place to stop her looking like an idiot.

We were pretty sure BM here

We were pretty sure BM here was doing that for a while with my SS when he was around 12. She needed to look like a good parent for court. However, lazy parent meant lazy with doing his homework, too, so she didn't keep it up. He went back to failing on his own.

The Girhippo

used this tactic when skids would get repeated failing notices. they suddenly would get As and Bs (chuckle) on their homework which they never would do. But classwork and tests they would crater fail. Hmmmm.

Gir has given up entirely and doesn't do that anymore with the last of the 3. She never had any rules or discipline for all three. They could skip, do no homework, classwork, etc.

Yep the teachers know that this is no miracle.

In my case, BM just convinced

In my case, BM just convinced the school that SSs were so anxious about grades that they needed "extra help" and that all their grades be adjusted. She had one diagnosed with OCD due to "grade anxiety", so his grades in core classes are miraculously adjusted to all As. One semester he had Ds and Fs on all his assignments, including his "first try" at tests, then miraculously he somehow ended with a 120% average. I think the teachers just went in and adjusted marks to make sure he got an A, but went a little overboard. I'm not sure why the school does it. Maybe because BM is so difficult? I've known the kids since elementary and one of them has changed teachers every year since then. This year they both changed and one changed twice. What drove me nuts, was then we were supposed to tell SSs how proud we were that they got As. I have tried to tell them that it's not about the grade, it's about what you have learned, but BM is dumb and lazy, so she uses the grades of "evidence" that she is a good mother.

Now, during "remote learning", SSs are not getting graded, but they are getting marked present or absent. Since attendance started getting taken they have both been marked "absent" in all their classes. This is despite the fact that BM's claims that she is "exhausting" herself helping SSs with their school work.

Some day. Kids will be back in. School

Then what? SS will be so far behind he will never recover He has many years of school ahead of him. I would not be in charge of him catching up. Just Pop some corn and have a watch party

Just out of curiosity, are

Just out of curiosity, are they grading pass/fail?

I know that a lot of city's/counties are doing 100% if you turn anything in and 0% of you don't. The work isn't what is graded, it's the participation.

Not saying that BM isn't the one turning it in, but maybe that is why he is getting 100%'s