I have been reading some posts on here and I can relate so much. I was married before to a man who had custody of his 3 children and I had 2 of my own. They ranged from 18 mos.(mine) to 10 yrs old. Yes, I know , I married him willingly! Plus he had the ex- wife from hell. She was the biological mother of all 3 of his children. I won't tell a long drawn out horror story because it's over now. I wish I would have had a site like this back then.
Whether you follow advice on here or not at least you feel less crazy. And step children make you feel crazy.
My point to this post is I have noticed that the women all try their hardest to be "fair" when it comes to the sc's. We go out of our way and over think everything we do. From my experience, the step fathers (there have been 2) do not think at all about what they say or do regarding my children. And I have noticed its he same with some of them on here too. Do we try to hard and it makes us crazy? I think we try so hard to make it "fair" that when the spouse doesn't do the same we become resentful.
I am in no way saying all step fathers are this way! I have just noticed a lot of the same things I have been threw. I don't know the solution I just know it sucks when you are in this position.
Some posts I have read I relate to so much it causes anxiety.
My situation now isn't quite as bad because our children are grown and do not live with us. But I still can relate to this site. My heart goes out to all of you living it.
As to my current situation, my mil has decide enough is enough and will be saying her peace on it to my husband this weekend. It is the 2 yr old step granddaughters birthday. It is sad that because of the sdil that the only people that will be there is my husband his mother and the sdil's dad.
Thank you all for listening to me vent and offering suggestions. Sometimes that's all a person needs.