it was SD42's birthday this week and what a drama!
I will backtrack just a little so bear with me.
Fathers Day... We are on our way out for tea and he gets a text asking him if he is in this aft. No we are on our way out for tea!
SD42 not happy that we have gone out but it was after 3.00pm when we went out so how come she left it so late! If she knew it was FD Day she should have rang earlier in the week!
She is a slow learner this one! I have to admire DH he is doing well putting his foot down..lol

Fast forward to 4days before her birthday text from SD's BF reminding DH when SD42 birthday is and that she would like money!! DH63 says I know when her birthday is "i was there"! He says.
As for money when she starts paying back any of the £6000 she owes me then I'll start giving her money for her birthday. Of course he is telling me this but he is not telling SD42 or BF!

3days before her birthday she comes over with DH's FD card. He gives her a birthday card with no money in it.
SD42 birthday ... He sends her a text wishing her happy birthday in the morning.
DH63 gets text back following day. ... Goes something like this....."I am unable to to talk to you right now i am that upset i cannot stop crying, you promised me you were coming over to take me out for lunch and you did not show up. I wanted to come over on FD Day and you went out. You are the only family i have, i know i'm high maintenance but I AM YOUR DAUGHTER AND I WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU!"
So now she has got his attention and he has to call her and she is wailing down the phone!!
He is beside himself because he has upset her! So he jumps through hoops today cancels work(he works from home) and arranges to meet her for lunch telling me he is going to tell her some home truths...yeah right! He is scared to death of her cos she's a basket case!
Back from lunch he has said very little but being completely passive aggressive where she is concerned he was happy to leave her with the illusion that I hate her..... I don.t have any feelings one way or the other... I am disengaged, dont speak to her, dont see her and I like it that way.
She starting causing serious trouble 48 hours before our wedding and has carried it on ever since.
So he gets himself off the hook again, wont tell her what he thinks and leaves her thinking its me that is causing problems.
Why are these men so spineless... He has had no problems upsetting me for the past couple of years trying to say he is sick of being in the middle. I told him you and her are the problem but you both want to blame someone else!
He knows where I stand now and I have told him to meet up with her as she wants a relationship with him but he is having none of it. But he will not tell her that he wants a life without her trying to control it.
I said he will always have this problem because he cannot tell her the truth.
It is sad in one way because she has alienated all her children and other family members but she is completely nutty and I have no time for this type of person, she is too much for anyone.