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Submitted by momgoingnuts on Sat, 08/29/2009 - 11:36pm

bm get's it in my 2 sd's heads that when their here dh needs to take them to do fun things all day every day such as go shopping go to the movies go to the park ect. o but me and my bio kids shouldnt be allowed to come since their here to visit their dad it should only be THEM doing things together and doing these things EVERY day their here. We've explained thats not how things work and we do things as a family but bm's got it so stuck in their heads this is the way things should be we've asked them if bm does this at her house (leave her skids behind and just take them to do things every day) they say no of course not we do things all together but apparently that is different because they live with her full time and just visit here so it's not the same...
DO ANY OF YOUR BM'S DO THIS SH*T?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

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Submitted by mommyamor on Sun, 08/30/2009 - 10:52am

but the "holy ones" tell their dad that he shouldnt be on his phone when he's spending father/daughter time with them and for some strange reason he seems to think they came up with this on their own....Hmmmmm??

Take your weakness and use it as a strength to keep moving forward...

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Submitted by melis070179 on Sun, 08/30/2009 - 12:50pm

I would knock her into next week. Tell her she doesn't get to control what your family does or does not do and then ignore her.

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 4:05pm

Good advice, but I would suggest doing it in the opposite order. Ignore her and just do what you want and if she persists in trying to control how things are done with DH's time with kids, tell her to F@#$ off!

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Submitted by Stepmom2Ched on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 5:21pm

Naw...BM just tells DH what he should be doing when she has SS6 with her...he shouldn't come right home to me right after work, instead he should go over to her house, pick up their son, take their son out to dinner, take their son to the library to do homework, or to the park...

when it's HER custody time. I think she regrets that she's spending all this time with her son. I say that because he is 6 y.o. and pretty much "high maintenance" compared to her older daughters (age 10 & 15)So she expects the dad to come over and do all that stuff.

Well, he does NOT abide by her wishes that he "Step up and be a father" to the son because HE has committments as well--working until 5:30pm, an hour drive back to our house, doing homework, taking online classes, preparing for the next day's work. So he doesn't accomodate her wishes because she is the one who chose the parenting plan rules...he gets his son every other weekend, PERIOD. He sees it as her living with the choice she made w/ the parenting plan.

When his son DOES come here, we rarely do go out, because we just can't afford to do all those things all the time. Especially right now, since DH was laid off for a couple weeks, and we're just getting back on our feet financially.

So she can wish in one hand and crap in the other...and see which one gets filled faster!

~*~A Good Mommy will let the kids lick the beaters. A GREAT Mommy will turn the mixer off first!~*~