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UPDATE ON BM MAKING 4YR OLD SD FEEL GUILTY

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Submitted by mommommom on Wed, 09/09/2009 - 2:41pm

I tried to be positive this morning and email BM about the conversation from yesterday. I was being the bigger person I did not say a cross word nor did I put her down. That was not the case yesterday when I fired back at her by explaining the fact that there were numerous choices for a father being she slept with 5 different people in a few week time span after she put my husband down stating he was not there for the delivery of SD, and blah blah blah. Why would a man be there when he has no idea if the baby is his or not, needless to say he had a paternity test done a few weeks after SD was born. Anyway, that is beside the point. I did try and apologize this morning and tried to resolve things with her. Well, no luck at all!! She came back with a ridiculous email letting me know in one breath how grown up and mature she is, being she is 24 and in another breath telling me I can think what I want about her that she just don't really care. That sounds like something I would have said in middle school. Obviously being 33 helps with the fact that I see things on a different level than she does. I never in my life dreamed I would deal with an idiot like this. Blum 3

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Submitted by RustyHalo on Wed, 09/09/2009 - 3:00pm

I also have to deal with a younger, less mature, high school-like BM on a daily basis. Even when we don't hear from her, I am dealing with her because I love her kids. I am almost 42 and she just turned 35 last week. She makes up stories about me and FH - I mean she has such an active imagination! And the stories change with each new BF. I have on occasion fallen victim to the "firing back in anger" syndrome and I realize that she enjoys this so much and it actually encourages her. I also realized that she knew she was "getting" to me and that while I stewed in my own home (while taking care of her children) and would then upset my FH, SHE was living it up with her new BF and didn't have a care in the world! Dealing with an idiot like these BMs is not easy. My dad would compare it like this: "it's like dealing with the most civilized monkey in the zoo." Civilized meaning that she hasn't stooped to throwing her own feces at me yet!!!!! Anyway, nothing can prepare you for dealing with crazy BMs. I will never understand mean people. I will never understand why people choose to live with hate in their lives. Our BM has never had a truly happy day in her life since she left my FH for another man. She blew through $60,000.00 in six months after the divorce and has begged for more money every day since then. She can never keep a job longer that six months.
Anyway, I tend to go on and on...........
I wish you luck in your dealings with your BM and if you can find a cure for stupidness, childishness, and extreme selfishness, along with nastiness, please contact me because I want to invest!!!!

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Submitted by mommommom on Wed, 09/09/2009 - 5:44pm

I hate that any of us are having to deal with stupid, immature people, but I will tell you I needed that laugh today! Biggrin Your dad said it all!! Things will start looking up and I am going to do my best to take care of my SD when she is here and one day I know we will be blessed and maybe even get SD back for good. If I do find the cure I will definitely let you know, Smile but I think around every corner there are a few more idiots! Have a great day and GOOD LUCK with your idiot BM!!