I wish...
...that my SCs were only 1 or 2yo like my BS was when my H & I got together. I always felt that if I'd had the opportunity to have input on how they were raised from a very young age that I might've been able to bond with them so that I would now love them like my own.
Unfortunately this was not the case, & after the horrible experience of having SS living in my home for a year & SD around eow I could NEVER agree to allow SD to come & live in my home full-time unless I was just a glutton for punishment which I of course am not.
So here we are now, at a stalemate. H told the counselor that we'd just be delaying the inevitable split if we don't separate now because he's already promised his daughter she could come too live with him at age 12 (3 mos from now) & he knows I'd never allow that - which he's right.
So what do I do? Tell him he's right & that's it then? Counseling done?
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Lol! You're funny. I don't
Lol! You're funny. I don't have a problem with H paying CS or with SD's BM, so you must have me confused with one of the other posters you hate on. Lol! Jealous much?
Oh, & you're right I don't deserve H - I deserve BETTER (H said so too!) I've told him to find someone esle, but for some reason he still wants ME! However, if you're so concerned you can have him & SD come leach off you - you've already got like 10 kids right, what's 2 more? (& yes since I provide most everything for our "family", SCs included when in MY home, I'm including H in the "kid" category). (NOTE: I should warn you though, if you're a BBW H won't be interested even to leach - he doesn't like big women. Not saying you are if you're not & nothing against you if you are, I'm just saying...)
For the record though, both MY BS & OUR BS live here full time with ME, their BM who owns the house & solely pays for it & MY BS was here BEFORE H & SCs & he will be here AFTER because the is OUR HOME - MINE & MY BSs. I've NEVER told H his daughter couldn't live with him or that he couldn't be her father, I will just not have another SC living in MY house after the "wonderful" experience with SS - fool me once...
However, H is welcome to go see SD and spend as much time with her as he wants & I am more that happy to take care of my & OUR BS myself, & if H wants SD to live with him he's welcome to get his own place & keep that promise too. I've told him if he ever feels like I'm making him "choose" between him & his daughter I'll make it easy for him - he SHOULD choose his daughter! Yet he stays...
You really should go mother your SCs now & stop wasting time feeling sorry for someone who doesn't even know you exist & wouldn't care about you if he did (my H hates "people"). Lol!
i have to agree: "BlendedFam
i have to agree:
"BlendedFam on Sun, 06/27/2010 - 9:54am.
I don't think you deserve your husband. Divorce him and let him find someone who does...
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why do you do this?
you have some good advice and then add this personal bashing in...
it negates all the good ideas you have."
someone else posted your ideas are great but your delivery sucks..
blended, work on your delivery and more people will see your point..