Just wanted to give you guys an update to my recent prior blogs regarding H & I separating/divorcing.

Since my last blog (http://www.steptalk.org/node/40415) I have confirmed that H has finally accepted the idea of us getting divorced. For the last few weeks we have not had any interaction or communication that was not strictly about the children. Surprisingly, what solidified this revelation was that during SD's last weekend visit whenever SD was in her room H stayed in the basement, and H has spent every moment at home that he was not caring for the children in the basement since then. On top of that, last weekend H stayed in the basement all weekend since it was not an SD weekend, and didn't interact with or care for the children at all - it was like he wasn't even there! He didn't even come up to use the bathroom or eat when we could see him (and there's no bathroom or kitchen in the basement, so I assume he did this when we were out or asleep?!) Either way, I'm not upset by this, as I just accepted it as how my weekends will be from now on when I have the children, and that said, since H still lives in my house and it is an SD weekend again this weekend, I am going to assume that he will be taking full responsibility for the care of the children this weekend and I can just make plans to do my own thing as I will on his weekends with the children once he's moved out!

Finally, H secured the second job he insisted he would need once we are separated, and he starts tomorrow. This means we will officially begin our post-divorce routines tomorrow, and then H just informed me that he is going to look at an apartment today and expects that he will be moved out by the end of this month, and that he would like to get the divorce done "ASAP"!

I am already starting to feel a little sad, as I knew I would once this became "real" , but I know we will all be okay. Thanks for all your support through this challenging time!