dh said something to me over the weekend that was kind of depressing, yet melted my heart too. that without him and his family, dd and I have no one (well dd does).

what started this? we are planning a garage sale in the next few weeks. one of my friends offered to come help me while dh is at work (i'm taking vacation for it). he basically said he doesn't want her here. it pissed me off so that I walked away to jump in the shower and as I walked off, told him i'm sorry for bringing it up.

well, he came back and I told him how I took it-that its wrong for him to tell me that my friends are not welcome here. he said no "SHE" shouldn't be welcome here by YOU and here's why. when you were on bed rest with our son, she came to see you ONCE, before that they came over to help work on your car so you could get to your grandpa's funeral, or when they needed a babysitter so they could go Christmas shopping, and YOU OFFERED to watch their kids after she posted that on her facebook-when have they EVER offered that without her husband throwing a fit? we went where they invited us despite you were on light duty, before you went on bed rest, to football games, and they couldn't even come sit with us (she was cheer coach, her dh was football coach-so understandably they were busy) but we still went. they invited us to a lake on their side of the state-we went. they came to our side after her husband threw a fit about the idea of going so far (50+ miles)-it's a two way street was our reasoning (it is). other than that I have to "buy" my friends. I have a "friend" I call more of a "mooch" (long story). So really I avoid her.

but in reality, he's right, my "friends" are only around when it's convenient and my family basically disowned me because of him (nothing HE did, just that we moved too fast for them).

I know this is a stepventing site, but really it honestly hurts to know he's right and well, they know that he doesn't like THEM. well, he likes her husband, they are cool, but they can't ever make time for us. she can't make time for you unless i'm not around or she wants something, when she goes out with the girls, she doesn't invite you, when you invite her......when was the last time she actually showed? he said i'm tired of watching you hurt because your so called friends stand you up (she hasn't but others have) and you continue to allow it. I hate seeing you hurt like that and I truly only want "friends" to come around who show it's a two way street WITHOUT a fit or because they want something.

with my family, it's a whole other ball game