SS13 was just given back phone privileges after he was looking up inappropriate things on his phone. We told him that we would be checking his phone every day. So... last week he goes and plays at his friend’s house. That night we go to check his phone and see that he sent a pic of himself looking all gangster holding a pellet gun (looks completely real) to some girl. She didn’t respond positively. DH immediately calls BM because he is trying to be on the same page as her and guess what her response is: well don’t yell at him? 

Um.... really? That’s all you have to say? If that girl decides to go to the principal with that pic, he could be in serious trouble. And her only response is don’t yell at him.

well... we are not Disney parent so his cell phone privileges were revoked, he can’t go in his friends house anymore, and no touching guns until he completes a gun safety course because in the pic the gun was pointing at his face.

i just get so frustrated with BM because there is zero discipline from her end, so we are constantly the bad parent. I think we are more strict than most parents but we also give a lot to our kids when they work hard and make good choices.

ss13 is screwing up and BM is not helping him at all. I feel like we are losing him to the dark side. Anyone else feel this way?