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Dealing with teenage SSs

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Thu, 12/22/2011 - 11:02am

Anyone have steps that are over 16 and drive? What we are seeing is that SS16 takes every opportunity to go over to mom's house. Like if he gets out of school, he will go over to BM's house and stay there until we are calling to see where he is at. How do you handle it? It just seems like BM should be encouraging her son to want to spend time with his dad but she doesn't. SS is going through a rebellious phase and doesn't want to be over at dad's AT ALL. He has a younger brother so DH doesn't want to let him not come over because otherwise SS14 won't think he has to come over either. Any advice/suggestions?

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Thu, 12/22/2011 - 12:55pm

This is a good idea. The other thing I think is going on is that he must go somewhere and eat because he never wants to eat with the family. And of course DH doesn't ask him about it - pretty much lets him do whatever he wants.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Wed, 01/04/2012 - 4:29pm

Does DH verify that SS is actually at his Mom's when he says he is? Our skids would do the same thing, but only because they know there is no communication between parents and they won't be found out. They used Mom as a cover all the time, even when they were on phone restriction, they'd claim they needed to talk to Mom (when they were really talking to friends).