Good morning, 

So this weekend my BS17 went out a bought himself a new vehicle. He had checked everything out messaged the private sellar arranged for a test drive, asked opinions and then took two mechanics with him to go look at it then purchased it for 400.00 less than what they were asking. I am a proud mom!

So 2 weeks ago SS27 had his car hit in his works parking lot. DH and I told him that the car is not worth much that they will probably total it out. We told him to start looking for a car.  We told him that the insurance company would want his title also. So fast forward to last week, they totalled out his vehicle they asked him to send in the title and then they would cut him a check. He hadn't contacted his BM for the title yet. She lives in another state and guess what, it took them a couple of days to find the title. Now he has a rental car and they tell him to turn it in after he gets the check. (I work for an insurance company and not once did he ask me any questions, nor did I offer assistance) This was last thursday that he got the check. So he has been using his grandfather's Van complaining about it daily all hours of the day and night. He's looking online at cars and instead of texting or communicating with the seller he sends the link to his dad and asks him to do it. I have been shaking my head in disbelief. On Monday, SS and my DH went looking at cars in lots (I wasn't told that my DH was not working) and nope didn't find anything. Yesterday, the same thing. I am now getting furious, first of all he is 27 years old and everyone else in this world waits until THEY ARE OFF WORK or have PTO to do something like this. My DH is self employed and so no work, no pay which means I get to be the provider of the house again. Not a happy SM right now. So last night after I get home from work, he starts showing me pics of cars. I showed no emotion or interest. He said "wouldn't you do this for your kids" I literally looked at him and said, did I do it for BS17 on Sunday? He said no, I said well there's your answer. I am so thankful that I have raised independent thinkers. I told my BS17 that he needs to sit and think about what he wants and what would be practical for him. He already had a vehicle and he worked so hard to save up for this new one. 

As for DH, I haven't expressed how frustrating it is that he took 2 days off of work which I think is pure bull while I worked and will have to help out with the bills more. Disengagement enacted!