Well I have the phone interview with the counseling agency for SD13 today at noon. My sister in law who works there tells me they will ask me a million questions about SD and her behavior and issues. Then based on the answers they will decide what kind of program she needs to be in, and then we will all go in for a meeting to discuss.
BM said the other day that she wants her new boyfriend to be there, and he wants to be involved. SO said absolutely not and he doesn't want BM there either. I told him I think it would be beneficial for both of them to be there, that way they can see what kind of crazy they are dealing with.

I know SO is just worried that BM is going to blame everything on him and tell the social workers that SD is the way she is because of SO. I reassured him and told him that these people are professionals and deal with high conflict people like BM every day. They will be able to tell that she is just bullshitting and looking for someone to blame.

I've been so stressed with all of this lately and I just want to get it over with. I just want to get some sort of diagnosis for SD so we can all understand what is going on with her and we can all learn how to deal with it. I'm hopeful but I know that not much is going to change because BM wont be on board and stick to what she says. I give her less than a week and she will be back to her old ways, letting SD act however she wants.

After this interview today I think I am done being involved. I will go to the in-person meeting to support SO but other than that I just cant be involved anymore. It's too stressful and I honestly think that its too much for SO to put on me. I understand its hard for him to do all this because he is 5 hours away and has to work, I get that, but then BM should be doing it. He doesn't want her too involved because he doesn't want her to mess things up for SD but its just too much stress for me especially since hes not here. I just cant do it and i'm not going to made to feel guilty about it.

SO comes home tonight and we have SD for the third weekend in a row. I'm already feeling the tension and she's not even coming for another 9 hours! Looks like I'll be hiding in my bedroom and not spending time with SO yet again this weekend.... I need a break.