Financial conflict with the boyfriend
My boyfriend is $30k in debt after hiring a lawyer. He hasn't really gained anything and even lost a visitation day with his son because that's how the divorce decree is written. Now he is paying for an out-of-network provider on top of making $700 payments on a loan. In total he is spending $900 on his kid. Meanwhile, I'm paying him $1000 in rent and paying for all the food. I'm at my wits end and I don't see a stable financial future with this man. I'll be looking into a lawyer regarding child support and child custody.
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Do it
I would proceed with your plans to consult a lawyer. I'm not hearing any positive feelings about the boyfriend. Good luck.
HUN
He is your BF. How long?
When I think about what a BF is, I think of dating, doing fun things together, laughter, and lots of love
What are you getting out of this other than yourself eventually going into debt.
I see you are thinking hard as to whether this relationship is good.
Not sure of your age or if you have bios. Hun follow your gut. Try and build a peaceful life for yourself.
RUN!!!!
So not worth it. Tons of red flags!!!
Yes,you would fare better on
Yes, you would fare better on your own.
I think that's an excellent
I think that's an excellent idea. I've just had a read over your other posts and this guy is using you and your finances for his own comfort. When he does have money, he squanders it on his son and he will continue to do so. I'd say it's time to get out of there and file for child support as you intend to. You've already poured too much of yourself down this drain, it's time to start thinking of you and yours and let him obsess about himself and his son. Youi've done more than enough for him.
Definitely talk to a lawyer,
Definitely talk to a lawyer, and stop subsidizing your BF right away. Will he fight for your kid the way he's fought in court for his son? If so, you need to preserve your resources and not let another penny go to help bail him out of his financial irresponsibility and poor decisions. Based on your other posts, there's not much worth preserving in this relationship, so good for you deciding to put this guy in your rear view.
Are you looking into custody
Are you looking into custody and CS to help him or to build a case for you and your kid(s)?
Are you looking into custody
Are you looking into custody and CS to help him or to build a case for you and your kid(s)?
He's not spending $900 on his
He's not spending $900 on his kid. He's spending $200 on healthcare and $700 paying back a loan for the attorney that you pushed him to get to take BM back to court.
Response
I was against him hiring a family attorney because I knew the bills would add up fast. He admitted to paying about $400 for his sons therapy and other services. He doesn't even spend $100 a month on our son.
You would be better off on
You would be better off on your own. You are already paying rent by yourself. Who wants to financially support a partner when you are getting nothing in return? He sounds like dead weight.
More money being spent on his son
So he recently took his son to a urologist and spent another $60 on a co-pay. He said it's because his ex-wife doesn't care about their son and she wasn't interested in attending. In addition, he said his ex-wife took all his sons clothes that he bought him and he had to buy new clothing for his son. Meanwhile, the other 2 kids have hand me downs. I take care of my oldest sons needs, but I expect assistance for my younger son who is biologically his.
Update
The spending has continued with my boyfriend buying his son a new wardrobe because his ex-wife kept all his clothes that he had previously bought. Now he bought him a new boyscots uniform and intends to take his son to scouts one day a week. This is the same man who bought his son a Nintendo DS, but couldn't anticipate that our newborn needed a crib until I said something.