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It's just a game: With my SM's sanity!

newbiemommy's picture

So I met my dad. Yay! Everything is good.
He has the most patient, kind, sweet woman. She and I get along great. Everything went fabulous. My dad was 19 when I was born and she is 10 years younger than him so we are closer in age than they are. Which actually has translated quite well for us!
So here's the catch, my sis14(also her sd) and dad are TERRIBLE to her. My dad encourages and laughs about my sister coming to him with secrets about things my SM wouldn't approve of. He thinks it's OH SO SPECIAL that they have that cute little thing they do where they have secrets about things they know she wouldn't like. "Oh haha it's just a game! You know, it's one of those 'DON'T tell mom' things." I asked about how sis and SM get along and he laughs saying that "it depends on the week." And he doesn't get involved in "you know, girl stuff." So he lets sis treat her ANY kind of way. And just "let's SM figure it out." I was quite HORRIFIED. I told my dad how concerned I was. And he again LAUGHED and proudly boasted that she has told him she wants a divorce 3 times and given him divorce papers once. But "she's still here!" And basically told me why she is just the perfect doormat for them.
Have you ever wanted to tell someone in life about steptalk? If anyone needs this site it is my SM.

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hereiam's picture

Is this the woman who you thought might be evil?

Turns out, your dad and sister are the evil ones.

newbiemommy's picture

I never thought she would be evil. I just had a moment of immature feelings of fear on how we would share attention. But yeah, no idea how she deals with them! I would be livid if my DH was doing that to me. And the fact that he laughs at her behind her back was horrifying. That is like my greatest fear that DH never does thing innocently and he's laughing "sucker." Behind my back.

misSTEP's picture

Wow. He mustn't care very much about his marriage. Or else he's got an ego as big as Texas.

newbiemommy's picture

Ego. He thinks he can talk her back any time. And he feels he is doing her this huge favor because she can't have children. So allowing her to be around them is just such an honor.

newbiemommy's picture

I am hoping to find some hobbies or something we can share. They go off and have all kinds of hobbies without her. Hopefully I can have a positive influence on sis too! Ugh. I was soooo mad. I can't even tell you!

newbiemommy's picture

Yeah I prob won't. I hope maybe she finds it on her own. She's not super tech savvy though.

newbiemommy's picture

I'm hoping to be a big help. I want to befriend her and maybe take sis out of her hair more? She's been an island for a loong time. Maybe if they get time together he will reconnect with his WIFE and treat his child as his child.

WTF...REALLY's picture

Wow. You just never know how things will turn out.

Maybe focus on having a relationship with your sis. Sounds like she has been raised very dysfunctional. Help her grow into a better person. Be a big sister. This will help all parties.

Enjoy your new adventures

newbiemommy's picture

Unfortunately! She has been taking care of this kid since she was 3!!! And her own mother can't be bothered with her. And this is how they repay all of her efforts.