DH showing up at my friend's house and getting arrested

I took my name off of the electric, water, cable, and internet bills and left DH a text that he has until Tuesday to pay for them himself due to unforeseen circumstances I can no longer continue to pay for things I do not use in a home I no longer occupy. I just want to wash my hands clean of all of this. Just get through one night without crying my heart out. He hurt me so bad and I let him I just want to be done with it already.

I was sitting in the hot tub with my friend and her husband and a few other friends sipping o a nice fruity drink letting my worries slip away. DH shows up drunk ringing the doorbell over and over when asked to leave he started banging on the gate. He was yelling and screaming profanities at me and telling me to let him see his baby (who by the way was with my mom but he doesn't need to know that). He was so drunk he was stumbling backwards every step he took forward. My friends called the cops. DH tried to get into his car and leave I came out took his keys and told him he is not drinking and driving. I tried really hard to hold in my emotions. My heart was saying " I love you and I don't want to see you this way I know there is a good man inside of you who I fell in love with. What happened".? I wanted to wrap my towel around him and hold him and let him cry on me. But I couldn't let myself be weak. I just walked back behind the gate still holding his keys and waited until the cops came and took him.

I cried watching him get put in the back of the car. I wish so bad I could turn off my feelings for him. I'm trying so hard to stay strong. I know he never was who I thought he was. But when did it all get so bad. How did we end up here? I picked up baby from my mom's. Every time I look at him I just want to cry but he gets upset when he sees I'm upset. He makes me realize that I love him more and I will always love him more and He keeps me strong.

*f.y.I I didn't drive to get baby my mom lives two blocks away so I walked with a friend because I had a few sips myself.

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Look at the bright side-you

Look at the bright side-you probably saved the lives of an innocent victim.

When I was at my lowest point I often had to fixate on the best part of my day. Sometimes it was nothing more than waking up (because I am luckier than those that didn't that day). No matter how bad focus on even the smallest of things that was good that day then remember that tomorrow is a new day. And take it one day at a time.

Thanks guys. This really is

Thanks guys. This really is one day at a time and really hard on me. I appreciate your support.

Holy crap did a lot happen to

Holy crap did a lot happen to you while I was elsewhere.

Wow.

But you definitely need to be done with it. Cheating or not there are a whole SLEW of other things that really should be deal-breakers intermixed with all of this.

Having gone back and perused a few of your latest blogs.

-Threatening to try and take your child away from you if you left.
-Calling you a whore.

I'm sure there's more, but those two stuck out for me.

It probably feels like someone has died. And that's kind of what's happened. The DH you fell in love with never really existed. He's gone. Getting back with someone like this, who is not only abusive when threatened but WILDLY dishonest... you couldn't expect anything but more of the same.

Mourn the passing, but don't let this guy who LOOKS and sometimes ACTS like the man you wanted fool you.

And for what it's worth... I'm sorry for your loss.

I know it hurts but kudo's.

I know it hurts but kudo's. Maybe his night in the slammer can help him see the light more clearly.

However seeing the light and accepting the light an changing are two very different things, so dont fall for the Ill be different crap cause its coming

(((((((HUGS))))))))

Please remember that none of

Please remember that none of this is your fault. You are doing the best you can. Sometimes it just takes the heart a while to learn what the head already knows.

I married the same man twice,

I married the same man twice, and we broke up a couple times during all that and I kept going back, the reason, is because that I believed there was a good man deep down inside. It took me a long time to realize that the man I THOUGHT he was or could be was not who he really was. Your DH is not who you think he is or see him having the potential to be. He is a cheat, he has proven that to you, to his other BM's. Let it go, see him for what he really is, not what you see him as could be. Once I finally woke up and saw my ex as who he really was it made letting go and walking away alot easier.

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