Need some help
My BF is leaving for a week long trip. SD will be in BM's care while he is gone which is her normal time to have SD.
Now since he stood up to her yesterday (see my previous blog) she has been sending crazy text messages. Just off the wall stuff we are a little worried she might lose it again. She had a nervous breakdown a little over a year ago. She just seems unstable.
Now in his absence if she does have a breakdown we are worried about SD. Does anyone know if there is any way we can have him leave permission for SD to come home to me untill he gets back?
Just trying to be proactive, I hope nothing happens but we would rather be safe than sorry. BM has one daughter here in CA that BF has raised since she was little. The othere daughter that BM and BF have together lives in GA so no other relatives for BM here in CA. BF has two sisters and his father that live 20 mins away from us.
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You didn't say how old the kd
You didn't say how old the kd is, but I would make sure she has your number so that she can call you in an emergency.
Sorry left that out she is
Sorry left that out she is 12. She does have my number and we are going to talk to her about calling me in case of an emergency.
Have you looked into a Power
Have you looked into a Power of Attorney where BF gives you the authority to act in his place if he is physically absent?
I had a crazy situation happen where both parents were in the hospital and I made decisions regarding where the kids would stay over the weekend. In consulted our attorney at the time and he said I was operating as "nolo parente." Apparently because both parents were incapacitated and unable to care for the children I was stepping in as a pseudo parent. Of course, BM took us to court over it and lost. The judge said that I was operating in the best interest of the children and that if a client had called her in the same circumstance she would have advised the same thing. The judge called BM out and gave me props by recognizing that I was under tremendous stress (my fiancé was on life support) and yet caring for three kids who were not my own. The judge said she agreed with my decision for the kids but even if she didn't agree with decision, she would not find fault as I was doing the best I could under the circumstances. She asked BM what her problem was and what she wanted from the court. BM was trying to hold DH for contempt while he was in a coma! It was crazy.
Anyway, the law does seem to provide for situations when the parents are unable to care for the children and someone steps in.
Hopefully all will be well but I'd ask an attorney if a POA would be valuable as a proactive measure.
Wow that must have been so
Wow that must have been so hard! I feel for you. I ended up doing a really basic power of attorney letter for child care. It is concise and to the point and we had it notarized. So just in case BM is incapacitated I will have some say so where SD is concerned. Just untill BF gets back from his trip.
Yes, it was a difficult time
Yes, it was a difficult time to say the least. And, SD10 got strep throat while it all happened. Thankfully, my SM helped and picked her up from school, took her to the doctor, stayed with her, stocked the fridge, etc. One of the boys got detention for missing the bus so there was that to deal with too. My SO runs his own business so I had to hire someone to manage while he was out. My SO's family took turns making dinner for the kids. I could not have held it all together without the help of family. And, as a 'thank you' from BM for taking care of HER kids she takes us to court! She even put me on the stand and questioned me. She really made herself look like an ungrateful b*tch to the Court which was a wee bit satisfying. Thanks for letting me vent...it's the first time I've shared the crazy story with anyone.
Glad you are being proactive but I hope it won't be necessary and all will be well.