Did you know you were making a mistake?
For those who are divorced or looking for a way out, did you know before you got married that it was a mistake? Did you see all the red flags and ignore them?
My first marriage, I settled. My ex was handsome, had a good job, didn't drink too much, didn't party too much, was a nice vanilla kind of guy. I wasn't wild crazy in love but I felt secure and my family thought he was a good guy.
I remember thinking that marriage might not be a good idea but telling myself I just had cold feet and I was being silly.
DHs father, best man and three other friends all asked him if he was sure he wanted to get married. That he didn't have to and no one would be upset with him if he called the wedding off.
My BFF has said that she wanted to call off her wedding 2 days before but her Mother told her she just had cold feet. Plus, everything was in place and what would they tell everyone!
She walked down the aisle knowing she was making a mistake but too afraid to stop.
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YES! I did. My ex husband
YES! I did. My ex husband had told me he knew he didn't want to marry me. So I broke up with him. I said, "I'm 30 and if you know I'm not the one, well time is a ticking and it's not really fair to date me then if you already know you don't want to marry me." So I broke up with him. Two days later I'm in the dollar store and I saw a pregnancy test. He was told he couldn't have kids. Low sperm count. He was married before me and they were infertile. Said it was him. Low sperm count my butt! We have three kids now!! Anyway I said, "Wouldn't that be my luck?" I bought the test and took it in the bathroom of Publix. Didn't feel pregnant or sick but damn sure I was.
and of course he proposed. and I said, "No. You only want to get married because of the baby. We don't have to get married. We can share her."
He insisted. Said he loved me so much.
I knew. Right at the altar. I started to feel a panic attack as I was asked "DO you..." I thought I was going to pass out. I was only able to say Yes because I told myself that I could get divorced. And I was right. He cheated on me our entire marriage. He didn't want me. He just wanted his children.
My first was true love for
My first was true love for me, but between alcoholism and cheating, there was no way to stay married to him.
My second was stupid, I thought it was my last chance and I was getting older (30s). I was wrong, and he was the wrong person for me.
Now, DH and I had a great relationship until SD came to live with us FT. When it's just the two of us, we are great. When skid is home, life is pure hell. She's a bitchy teen, he's a guilty father. Had I known it would be this way, I would have never dated him.
oh i knew exactly that i was
oh i knew exactly that i was making a mistake. i backed out the night before but ended up caving.
the ONLY reason i'm glad i went through is without that life-choice, i would never have met my dh, my soulmate. and for that i am grateful.
My DH did with BM, but she
My DH did with BM, but she was preggers, so what other options did he have? He was trying to be honorable.
First time, Deigma's Dad, did
First time, Deigma's Dad, did not happen, cause he never showed, good thing though we would've ended up in divorce.
Now with SO - not planing on getting married to him ever, no red flags or nothing and I do love my idiot, but there's small things he does I do not like, I do things he does not like and as soon as we get married - we would try and change the other person, so rather not get married lol.... SO's words to me one day... if we get married I will force you to stop being a bleach freak... there and then I decided... no ring, I love my bleach more then a ring