make a dr appt for the little sociopath
Finally my DH sees some clarity in what his BS10 is doing! Yesterday was a horriable day in our household. You could have cut the tension in our house with a knife. It started off as a regular lazy weekend, I woke up as I always do and went straight to the kitchen to make breakfast for my family. After slaving away and making a breakfast feast my SS10 threw an absolute fit because I served him his plate last. He started yelling that I didn't make his food right and that is super rude that he didn't get his plate first. I calmly explained to him that there was no set order on who got their plate first and to be exact I was the one that ate last and I am the one that did all of the work to boot! Because of his rude ass behavior I told him that he is the one that needed to do the breakfast dishes, he seemed to have reacted ok to the task...at first. At that point I proceeded to the laundry room to do some laundry and my DH hopped in the shower then all of a sudden I hear a loud crash. I went running into the kitchen and there is glass everywhere. The little shit said that he was trying to empty the dishwasher and dropped all of the plates, at that point my BD9, who was in the dining room told me, mom he threw the dishes on the floor! Ofcourse he started to scream at me for even making him do the dishes in the first place. At this point my DH heard the yelling and came running, he then became upset with me for making a 10 year old do the dishes In the first place. Boy did I get pissed because once again SS10 bad behavior never even got addressed and I am once again the evil stepmom. So I then took my bio kids only with me to run some errands, I told my DH that I simply needed a break and left. When I got home my DH was quiet with me and the little physco was trying to kill me with nasty looks. I ignored
them all. Later in the evening we had some friends come over for a bbq and to playy some cards, they brought their 2 kids with them and we tried to just set all of the day aside and have a great night. Things seemed to be going just fine until we hear a yell, thud, and then a blood curdling scream from the backyard. We all went running and saw SS10 standing in the middle of the trampoline
and our friends daughter9 laying on the ground next to the trampoline with a bloody nose! SS10 started to cry and say that this little girl came at him and he
needed to defend himself, we were like what the hell! All the kids at that point told us that SS10 got up on the trampoline and just punched her in the face and knocked her off the trampoline. Our friends were horrified, and we were soooo embarrassed. My DH b
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Sorry didn't mean to press
Sorry didn't mean to press save so soon! Lol. So anyway at that point my DH agreed to make him an appt to be seen at a drs for his behavior. I am happy because now finally he sees it but it also pisses me off that I have been living with this bullshit for the last 3 years and he never believed his own wife, he needed to see it with his own eyes first. I almost don't want to make the appt and lock the 2 of them in a room together and see who comes out as the winner!
Why is it that we wives are
Why is it that we wives are never right? If I ever disagree with anything my husband's buddies say or, God forbid, his mom, I am always wrong; they are always right. It's easily cost us thousands as a couple at this point. I don't even bother to argue anymore.
Omg our situations are one in
Omg our situations are one in the same! I have gotten to the point I can't even stand the site of my SS10, just the sound of his voice makes my stomach turn. He is so evil and is doing everything he can to rip this family apart. My DH and I have a wonderful and loving marriage if this little shit would just keep his nose out of it. I am going to go to the first therapy appt just so I can lay everything out on the table and make it crystal clear to the therapist, god knows I don't need SS to manipulate this person too. But that will be the extent of what I do, this kid is the one with the problem not me. Like I told my DH, the proof is in the pudding, look at my bio kids who I have single handedling raise, they are great well adjusted kids so obviously I am doing something right.
So are your friends sueing
So are your friends sueing you? Because I would be and getting it documented.
This would become a legal record of his behaviour and actions. I hope the boy is relegated to his room or out running and walking for 10 miles. I would so wear his arse out.
The problem with these kids is their Bio parent/s refuse to consider their child is at fault. Anyone who considers their child is the continual 'wronged one' instead of the 'wrong one' is a fool. The kids find they can manipulate the situation and their parents/relatives and get away over and over again with horrendous behaviour..... until they run smackface into the law. Then they cannot manipulate anyone unless they can convince a jury that they are the 'real victim'.
I do not know where you women get the energy to deal with this for 3 yrs. I would have either killed the kid or given up and left a couple of years ago. You are stronger than me.
At least these kids will be getting the help they need and hopefully these parents will stop thinking their children are the victims and the bullies and manipulators they really are.
the little girl my SS did
the little girl my SS did this too is my best friend from childhoods daughter. She has been the only person that I have been able to confide in over the years about SS10s behavior so I am not worried about any legal retalation. I am sorry it had to come to an innocent person being put in his cross hairs but on the other hand I feel super relieved that I no longer have to fight this battle alone. My DH is still trying to stick his head in the sand at times but I am no longer letting him. I have put my foot down and told him that that beast is no longer allowed in MY home without serious help. I am not going to be raising the next Ted Bundy over here and my blinders are not on to this situation. His little ass will be shipped to a boys home if he doesn't shape up because I will not stand for this anymore.
your dh pisses me off. i hate
your dh pisses me off. i hate how the worst has to happen before people listen, or they will only listen to those they consider superior. fdh's friend's son was stealing from her and threatening to kick her ass, etc, and he was an adult. i told her to get a RO. no no no, she's not gonna do all that, bla bla bla. the very next day, her much younger bf told her to get a RO, and she said "you're right, i do need to do that. i'm doing it first thing in the morning!" :? ok, you stupid bitch. coming from me, it was ridiculous, but coming from your boytoy it's golden advice? no wonder your kid is such a monumental failure, he was raised by a moron!
I can't imagine how angry and
I can't imagine how angry and upset you must be that it took this to get your DH to get some help for his kid and really a 10 year old can't do dishes! Hell both my kids started doing dishes at 7, and I don't own a dish washer and in 4 years neither of the kids have broken anything (I have but they are extra careful about the breakable stuff)
That is infuriating....yous
That is infuriating....yous SS basically assaulted someone and dad only now thinks he needs help?
Not only that, but he destroyed your property by breaking the dishes...
That is infuriating....yous
That is infuriating....yous SS basically assaulted someone and dad only now thinks he needs help?
Not only that, but he destroyed your property by breaking the dishes...
I am frustrated to no end
I am frustrated to no end with all of this. As I told my DH I am tired of feeling like the bad cop all the time, his response was well I'm sure SS feels very picked on by u because he is always in trouble. I lost it at that point! I told my DH that I don't just go aroind yelling at kids to get my kicks off, they get in trouble when they do stupid shit and its not my fault that he does so much stupid shit. My DH still believes that we need some sortof family counseling but I am standing my ground, I am not the problem here nor am I the cause behind all of this. SS10 needs the counseling and DH needs to be part of it, NOT ME!! Today is SS10s first appt with the therapist and I do plan on being there for this one. I am gonaa tgell this therapist everything that has been going on and I am bringing the taped evidence I have of his nasty behavior. God knows I don't need him railroading me to the dr and making this guy feel sorry for him too. I am hopeful that we are the uphill side of the battle now and I am in a position to get my life back again. Keeping my fingers crossed and my heart empty at this point!