Backstory: At DS18's graduation, SD26 told me she was uncomfortable with me touching her and therefore wouldn't hug me. 

Backstory 2: SD26 was never held accountable in school or at home for grades or attendance. She went to an inner city school that miraculously turned 30s into 65s so she could pass and graduate on time. She regularly skipped school or went in hours late and BM didn't care. She was living with BM on school nights, so there wasn't much DUH could do, and part of the reason BM was so lenient was to be the bestie. She wanted. DUH to be the bad guy, so he did not discipline for behavior here. All homework used to be left undone and and sent to our house where we would frantically spend the entire weekend getting it caught up - leaving us not able to have any fun time and making this the mean house. So we stopped. If the state determined that BM had primary custody and DUH only had every other weekend visitation, it was BM's responsibility to supervise homework. I predicted that the complete lack of accountability by the school and the BM was setting SD26 up for life failure. indeed. She gets fired from her part time minimum wage jobs regularly. She's been fired from three jobs this year so far. She lives with her girlfriend in a crappy apartment in a seedy neighborhood. 

On our way up to DUH's sister's house, DUH blurts out that he has no idea what got into SD, no idea what her issue is, apologizes for her behavior, tells me he's been going her money ($100) almost every month to help with rent that she mostly pays back with ger next paycheck, and says he's going to stop. I was at a complete loss for words - this was the first time EVER that he acknowledged that one of his daughters disrespected me. 

A few hours later, on our way home from sister-in-law's house, SIL sends out an email message from SD26 to DUH's extended family. "Girlfriend and I are getting evicted fro our apartment. We both recently lost our jobs. I found a place we can move into, but we need $300 that we don't have. I promise we'll pay you back for any amount you can give us. Even if you can give us $50 that will help."

Hmmm, chica, if I'm untouchable, so is my money. DUH didn't give her any either. That girl has a lot of nerve.