BM decided to throw all of her progress out the door this weekend and reverted back to her regular psycho self. As I said in the subject line, things are about to get really ugly...

I already mentioned in another blog that Saturday morning she called SS's cellphone at 6:00, 6:30 and 8:18 to try to wake him up and snoop through our house. When she can't get him on his cellphone, she calls and leaves messages on our phone at the business we run. She always assumes that we're there so she speaks to the machine like you do when you expect someone to pick up. If we don't, she'll say "Well since I know you're both there, you can just sit there and listen." I love how she thinks she knows everything. We have 15 messages from her just from this weekend alone, and those are only the calls that she left messages for, and the calls to our phone (not including SS's phone). SS over the course of the weekend had 20 missed calls from her on his phone, and she leaves messages about 40% of the time she calls us. That being said, it would be safe to estimate she called us at least 58 times over the weekend. Now tell me, please, what is SO important that you have to call almost 60 times in a weekend? She couldn't have an emergency with the child, since he's with US.

So we got a few emails saying that she would alert our attorneys that a secondary phone number is warranted since she can never get us to answer the phone. No big deal, we've been through this before and the attorneys always explain to her that it's just tough and she can't do anything about it.

She is always complaining that we never do anything "special" with SS. I don't know what her definition of "special" is because we often take him out to movies, arcades, bowling, etc. BUT in an effort to do something "special" with him, we threw a party for him about one of his favourite movie characters. We watched the movie that the character was from and one of our friends dressed up as the character which was a huge suprise for SS - he got pictures of him and we even got it on video. SS had a blast. Well, you could imagine when BM heard about this party, all of a sudden it transformed into an underage drinking binge with smoking and drugs and "god knows what else". As soon as BF turned around from dropping SS off, she was calling leaving messages on our phone.

She claims that she's already been informed by a judge that she has the right to keep SS from us considering our lifestyle, so she will not be sending him on visitation anymore (interesting how she managed to get that type of legal advice on a Sunday). She said to go ahead and party and do whatever it is we do because we're not fit to take care of a child so he won't be visiting us anymore. She said that she would be filing to modify the parenting plan and put it back to every other Sunday for 8 hours - except she will force it to be supervised visitation and there will be NO overnight visits (she can't do this because we just modified the plan a month ago). She also said that she will be suing him for his half of the marital debt since he has given her no money to compensate for it (he's not supposed to pay HER, he's supposed to pay the companies that they're indebted to - which he is doing). She also said that she will be suing him for his half of SS's medical expenses since he has yet to pay her for them (SS is on government insurance and has 2 secondaries, so she has NO out of pocket medical expenses for SS. Everything is free. Also, in order to have him reimburse her, she HAS TO give him a receipt within 10 days of paying for anything which she has NEVER done).

Here's the kicker - she said that if BF doesn't want all this stuff to go down, then he will drop the charges he has against her for harrassment and give up his rights to visitation. She wants him to agree to let SS come and go from our home as he pleases (read: when she wants him to come). She wants BF to give up his legal and physical custody over SS and let her make all decisions in regards to him. She even at one point said "if you want to get out of paying me $15,000, you'll drop the charges and give up your rights to SS." She said that he needs to have his decision to her by noon today because she will be at the courthouse filing the charges then. What I love is that she did all of this on our answering machine, so we have every bit of it consentually recorded! She basically voluntarily gave us solid proof that she's blackmailing BF!

SO BF will be spending the day with his lawyers going over the tape of her messages and finding out what all he can do. He's so sick of her bullshit and told me that he's going balls to the wall. I assume my RO hasn't been served against her yet because neither of us have heard anything about it from her, and we're expecting to feel the explosion from here when she gets served. My personal hope is that we can get her psychological well being into question in court so that we can force a psych eval on her. ALSO BF will be calling DCS today to hopefully get them to pay her a visit and document the living conditions that SS is in. Anyone in their right mind would know that it's unhealthy (and UNSAFE) so hopefully that can help us out a bit. If they do their job like they're supposed to, which we've heard is unlikely because apparently DCS are all idiots, but IF - there's no way they'd let him stay living in conditions such as what her house is in.

Thank you all for listening...it's been a rough weekend and it's about to be a wild ride.