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SS hasn't been to school all week - a rant

Nymh's picture

Submitted by Nymh on Fri, 05/02/2008 - 8:54am

First off, let me start off by saying that last week was Spring Break, so SS didn't go to school at all last week either. If you read my last blog, you saw that SS had an anxiety attack on Monday morning and his mom didn't make him go to school. Last night, BF was telling me that BM is dropping SS off today for visitation (which means that she's doing something recreational again this weekend...she never drops SS off unless it's on her way to go out of town). He then starts off with, "BM says that SS is still coughing and feeling puny..."

I said, "Wait a minute, has SS been to school at all this week?"

"No," he said. Then he started to explain that SS is considered "special needs" and they can't fail him due to absences as long as he makes passing grades. I just kept my mouth shut.

THE KID IS NOT "SPECIAL NEEDS". He's a normal kid who knows that he can manipulate his Mom into not making him go to school! You know, I've had a cough all week too...I sound horrible...no one can understand what I'm saying...I can't breathe through my nose...it's called ALLERGIES! But I've kept the house clean and worked three jobs while sick AND pregnant!

Sorry but this just really pisses me off. If he's enabled to do this now it's just going to get worse and eventually he'll end up getting bad grades and maybe dropping out.

BF said he wants to talk to his lawyer today about SS never going to school. I suggested that he should call the school and find out how many times SS has been absent this school year. He said he's busy...uh, if you have time to call your lawyer, you have time to find out the truth about what you're calling him about.

You know, SS has really been looking forward to us taking him to see Iron Man tonight. I think if he's been too sick to go to school all week, maybe he's too sick to stay up late watching a movie!

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steppie1999's picture

Submitted by steppie1999 on Fri, 05/02/2008 - 8:58am

No school.....no movie.....PERIOD!!!
Hope your DH sees it this way, but don't hold your breath.
Back to the guilt parenting thing

"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN" Sad

sparky's picture

Submitted by sparky on Fri, 05/02/2008 - 9:11am

I thought the law was the law regardless if special needs or not. If they were special needs or had medical problems the teacher would be coming to the home.
I thought if they missed more than 20 days per school year they had to repeat the grade.

ColorMeGone2's picture

Submitted by ColorMeGone2 on Fri, 05/02/2008 - 9:12am

What is meant by "special needs" and what, if any, testing was done to determine this?

♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥

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Nymh's picture

Submitted by Nymh on Fri, 05/02/2008 - 9:55am

I've been looking through our state's "STUDENT MEMBERSHIP AND ATTENDANCE ACCOUNTABILITY PROCEDURES MANUAL" and it doesn't say anything about special circumstances for excessive absenteeism for children with medical hardships. I'll keep looking.

Georgia - by "special needs," they basically mean that SS had a lot of problems when he was born. He gets a stuffy nose and coughs a lot. He's basically a normal kid. BM rides on the fact that he was born a preemie and spent the first several months of his life in incubators and surgery to keep him from doing things like a normal kid. He takes two allergy medications, an inhaler, and OTC acid reflux medication. He has an emergency inhaler which he says he uses occasionally when he gets the breath knocked out of him if he falls off the monkeybars or something like that.

Personally I think BM and her home are the problem. He seems to be fine when he's with us but when he's with her he supposedly stays sick and she takes him to the hospital frequently.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*