What is it???I have never had that before but I recognise that I could be with someone who has the tendency to be emotional abusive!!
As usual it was about the kids. He screamed at my son (9) because he was being silly and bash a barbie against the door- fair enough-he got in trouble with me, too- but when I questioned him and also his friend completely independently from each other they both said SD bashed that barbie first- when I brought this up for consideration to SO he turned it all against me and claiming I wouldn't let him discipline my son, which is untrue since I told him off as well and would never say anything doubtful in front of the kids.He claimed the boys were lying (inspite of me asking them independently and hearing excactly the same story).This is not the point.But the problem is that SO lost his temper big time, shouted right into my face and bashed his computer!All (again ) in defense of his daughter and against me. I am confused- I am 43 and haven't had anything like that in any former relationships.
I feel sick to the bones. Another time (also about his daughter!!)he screamed at me and threatened he would leave .I feel as if I was punched in the face. he told me he wants counceling for us to sort out "the problems with the kids"- yes, a very good idea, I agree, but I struggle the most with being screamed at in such situations.Right now I am really experiencing anxiety and inspite of all assurances that he puts our rs first, I strongly feel that if it is about SD 8 he would throw everything away just in order to defend her (even though she was never even directly attacked).
I don't know how to deal with all that.