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onwednesdayswewearpink's picture

The super offensive Christmas cards post got me thinking.

My family is predominately Eastern Orthodox, a portion is Jewish. Most of my friends are Christian, a few are Jewish. At Christmas time, every single person gets the exact same Christmas card of my smiling children and fluffy dog in a sweater. When I get happy Hanukkah cards I have never thought twice and hang all the cards up on my handy dandy card holder.

Do people find it offensive to get happy whatever cards from other religions?!? Until yesterday I had no idea that someone would be offended by a greeting card.

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queensway's picture

No not at all. It is the thought that counts, right. If someone is nice enough to send a card to you why be offended. If you think the person Could be offended don't send it to them.

thisisnotmocking's picture

I've never been offended by a card. I love getting mail that's not a bill!!

I've also never been offended by being told merry christmas, happy holidays, happy hanukkah or have a good day in public.

I've never had anybody freak out on me for saying any of the above, either.

I'd probably laugh if they did.

advice.only2's picture

I've never been offended by a card. I love getting mail that's not a bill!!

my sentiments exactly!

classyNJ's picture

Never offended unless I don't get one back from someone I sent to Biggrin Kidding.

My cousin has now started sending New Years card instead of Christmas cards because one of her Jewish friends asked her to stop sending to her house.

ESMOD's picture

Sometimes a card is just a card.

People can project a lot of meaning and feelings onto even the most innocuous thing.

Generally, people use "holiday cards" to connect with people and to send their "good wishes".. whatever the holiday may be.

Now, I am certain that if we look hard enough at almost any interaction, we can find reasons to be offended. But, I choose to accept pretty much everything at face value.

I sort of lump this kind of sensitivity into the same bucket as the "microagression" that people call out. Such minor and not really intentional things that some people see as offensive.

Dovina's picture

Most people are not offended by a holiday card. The card is sending good wishes. I have yet to meet anyone that is jewish that would be offended by a Christmas or seasons greetings card . That being said I wouldn't send a hanukkah card to religious Christian friends. Just like I wouldn't send a birthday card to someone when its not their birthday. Common sense, and just take the kindness if someone is wishing you well.

DaizyDuke's picture

No, never. Isn't that what makes the world go 'round? Why in the world would anyone be offended by someone's offering of peace, love, happiness.. whatever??

People have gotten beyond strange and ridiculous. Geesh

strugglingSM's picture

I've never been offended, but often think about whether I should send a card that says Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays to someone whom I know is not Christian. I sometimes pause at wishing them a Merry Christmas, because I don't want them to be offended.

moving_on_again's picture

None of it offends me, I don't want my right to express something taken away, so I don't take it away from others.

DaniAM73's picture

The thing I love most about receiving a card is the person thought of me. I would not be offended by receiving any greeting card.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

I love getting cards and I really love sending them. I send cards for just about every holiday. I do use care at Christmas and Easter and don't send cards that are overtly Christian to my non-Christian friends. I use cards that celebrate the "holiday" or the "season." I want people to know I am thinking about them and hope to add a little joy to their lives.

Thumper's picture

For many years I was in the employee of a wonderful Jewish Family working at their one of several businesses. I would have never sent them a Merry Christmas Card to them, in fact I only sent them Happy Hanukkah cards out of respect for their religion.

Same for their celebration of Yom Kippur. I hand delivered the nicest card I could find for them.

They would give us Christmas gifts.

IF we had friends who were Jehovah Witness for goodness sake I am not going to send them a Birthday Card. Nor would I send a Jewish family Merry Christmas cards. Same for anyone who is atheist , I would never send them a Holiday Card.

ITS" gauche,, down right Gauche.

The kids mentioned in the prior post are being rude (IMO) and THEY are not accepting nor tolerant of the Jewish Faith their father has affirmed. They need to get over it.

still learning's picture

I only get offended if there's no money or check in the card...friggin cheapskates Wink

Acratopotes's picture

I am with you on this one....

or at least a gift voucher at a bottle store Wink

WagiMorri's picture

I've never been offended and I am specifically atheist. If a person shares good thoughts and well wishes with others and find it the most meaningful through their religion, then I think they are finding the most meaningful way to say something sweet... And that's what matters.