I noticed that my 4 year old son will hide behind my back or pull me close when SS16 walks past. I took him aside and asked him what was wrong. If you would have looked into the eyes of my little boy you would have wanted to cry. He started crying and I let him know its ok to tell me what's wrong. He told me that he saw SS16 spitting in my cup ( the cup of juice I drank) and SS16 said if he told he would kick him in the nuts and that SS calls him bad words. I assured him no one is going to hurt him. I asked my 6 year old if SS16 had been bullying him he got very shifty but said no. I know my boys I know when something is wrong. I asked SS12 if his brother ever bullies him or does anything we should know about he said yeah but just when their playing. I told DH I don't want SS16 around my boys anymore he needs to finish his anger management courses and continue counseling and he can stay at his mother's house. DH got defensive but when our four year old begged him not to let SS16 kick him in the nuts he knew it was the right thing to do. I took my kids out while he talked with SS16 and drove him to BM's house. I could not look him in the eye because I'm not sure what I would have done or said. When it comes to my boys I can't keep a calm disposition. I just need to get this out because it’s burning me up and I feel like slapping the color off of his face.