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Overitalready.'s picture

Submitted by Overitalready. on Mon, 02/01/2021 - 2:18pm

The hardest part of disengagement is keeping my mouth closed ! It is so hard not commenting either way regarding the messy monsters . 

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JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Mon, 02/01/2021 - 3:52pm

Not commenting works on several levels.  First, it keeps DH from feeling like they must defend the child.  That means at least a superficially more peaceful relationship between us and DH.  Second, it lets DH experience the child's issues himself and hopefully, come to his own conclusion.  Third, not commenting frees up a little of our brainspace, once we get into it.

But I agree, it's so hard not to point out the obvious. And also hard not to point out how the obvious could be corrected and by whom.

Dogmom1321's picture

Submitted by Dogmom1321 on Mon, 02/01/2021 - 6:30pm

So hard! That's when I excuse myself.

 

SD10 was talking with her mouth full at dinner tonight. Shoveling in rice as if it was going to disappear in seconds. She started coughing and literally spit rice EVERYWHERE. I just got up and left. 

The following went through my head "Stop talking for once while you're eating. The food ISN'T going anywhere. Stop shoving your face." 

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 02/02/2021 - 2:47am

How disgusting! What did your SO do about it? I hope he made his pig of a kid clean up and sanitize everything.