I hate the weekends
New step mom. I can’t stand to be home when his 5 year old is here . I feel horrible for saying that but she’s such a brat . She can’t follow simple directions , she speaks to me like an adult . It is impossible for her to entertain herself for 1 damn minute . I am already counting down the hours until Monday !!!! I’m stuck home like everyone else due to the corona what can I do all weekend ? I’m becoming so unhappy.
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She will only eat 2 things
She will only eat 2 things . If her father doesn’t cook what she wants she flips out. I try to plan organized activities to do at home to make the best of the lock down. She says she is so bored and tells her brother not to play. I love my ss8 btw! I feel horrible for him he tries to hide from her as much as he can. I have never seen a child at 5 behave this way . It’s Easter weekend I would love to hide eggs around the house , paint bunnies and set out a basket . She was so awful to me last weekend I gave the items to our neighbor . I told my DH he needs to set rules I shouldn’t have to lock myself in a room all weekend.
Aw, I feel for you.
Aw, I feel for you.
Why are you guys still doing exchanges? For the time being, children need to stay were they are.
I agree! BM told DH she is
I agree! BM told DH she is overwhelmed with having to home school. Not my problem she created this entitled monster she she should be able to deal with her . I have vocalized my concerns several times regarding quarantine.
isn't it funny
Isn't it funny how BM makes the mess then doesn't want to deal with the fallout. I feel for you! Too bad your boyfriend didn't stand his ground on this one beause the kids staying put is really the best thing during this pandemic. It would have been better if he could have offered support from a distance instead of taking the kids.
The thing that stands out to
The thing that stands out to me is that she speaks to you like an adult. My SD was like that too because she viewed herself as equal to adults having always been treated as such. Alot of the issues I have with her stem from that sense of entitlement. She also could not entertain herself and that made her obnoxious to me too.
Freedom of speech
sd5 told me her mom allows freedom of speech . This child is to grown !
Well she better learn quickly
Well she better learn quickly then that her freedom of speech can still come with consequences. I hate when people use that to justify being assholes. Yes, you can say what you want, but the person you said it to also has the choice to respond how they want. Just because you aren't going to jail for it doesn't mean theres no negative results.
Haha, tell her if she wants
Haha, tell her if she wants to act like a grown up, then you expect her to do "grown up chores" don't help her with anything. Make her figure her shit out.
With me it was the opposite lol, SD at 7 years old, when I recently moved in with DH, had AWFUL behavior. She would have the worst temper tantrums if she didn't get what she wanted. She would kick her dad and just completely acted like a BABY. I told her, "ok, you wanna act like a baby, then I'm going to treat you like a baby." She didn't get to go out with her friends, or go to sleepovers, had a very early bedtime, and was constantly on her ass about cleaning up after herself, until she got the point and decided to act her age.
Oh no no, I mean she thought
Oh no no, I mean she thought she could do whatever she wanted and was allowed to call the shots like an adult and didnt have to listen because she was just as in charge as the adults. She acted like a baby in other ways with fake crying, etc. She was and still is one of the most awful kids I've ever met.
Ugh I hate the damn fake
Ugh I hate the damn fake crying! And DH fell every fucking time. SD is the brattiest kid I've ever met as well. How TF did she end up being MY stepkid..
The silver lining on Corona is that she's been away for the past few weeks!
Have you tried to just do
Have you tried to just do things with your SS. When SD comes up and starts to whine: "Sorry, SD, I don't do things for people that are rude to me and are whiny." Or "Sorry SD, due to your behavior last time you have to sit out this one. Maybe you can show me that you can be nice and we will let you join later when we do xyz".
I don't understand your DH allowing her to throw a fit over food. If she doesn't want it, she can be excused from the table and go to bed hungry. She won't starve by skipping dinner one night. It will show her that she isn't the adult and she doesn't have the control in the household.
Rough! I feel for you!
I had similiar issues when my oldest SD was 8. Demanding certain foods and just being really disruptive to the home. Can your husband stand his ground with things like dinner. Once my SD realized she wasn't getting what she wanted from her dad when she behaved badly she made some positive changes.
In the short term maybe you can find something she likes to do on her own like puzzles, sidewalk chalk, or something else time consuming. My SD was always hard to entertain and had a really hard time just entertaining herself. I started doing long games of hide and seek with her and the other two kiddos in the house and that worked for all of us. The kids thought it was fun and I hid really in hard to find places so I got some time to myself lol!
Stand your ground on how you allow her to speak to her even if he Dad doesn't or you will get so much more disrespect. I know that is what happened to me. A major part of my speaking to her ended up being me saying things like when you talk to me like that I'm not able to help you with .... or when you behave like this I'm not able to play a fun game with you. For a week straight I basically said nothing else...but it eventually worked because she didn't get what she wanted. Becasue of this she went to her dad for everything and I was off the hook...bummer it didn't change her behavior but it did perserve my mental health!
Good luck I hope your weekend improves!
I actually reminded my own
I actually reminded my own bios who the boss was. We'd play a little game of back in forth until is sunk in that they were the child and I was the adult/boss. I think every little kid goes thru this. The wise parent sets them straight. The wise parent points out all the adult things a child can't do for the house. The wise parent makes them think this thru with critical thinking skills and age appropriate language. The other thing this does is make them want to grow up and get out. Give a child adult privileges now and they won't be motivated to achieve them when 18, why would they when they already have them without the work?
If SD is getting bossy with you, set her straight that you won't be bossed around by a child. That you CAN DO.