FYI this blog is about my bios and ex and its long!

Friday during my kids BD visitation pickup BD was out of town for work. He wanted the kids the following night. I told him fine but we had plans and I would contact him when we were done. He never responded after that so I really didn't give it another thought. We were at a pool party and cook out. After dinner I went back out to the cabana and checked my phone. I has 2 texts. 1) when will the kids be ready - 530pm. 2) I have the police looking for you. You are violating my visitation. Your failure to communicate is unacceptable- 702pm.

I texted him at 730 after reading the message and said: sorry, I have been in a pool. Like I told you in the email, we have plans tonight and I will arrange a pick up when we are done here. From there he accuses me of being an unfit mother and threatens to take my kids away from me.... Again. This is the 4th time in 2 years that his new child bride has talked him into this nonsense. I said whatever. We will be home at 830, you can pick them up then.

My kids are hysterical and don't want to go. They both call and beg him to stay with me last night. We even try changing from last night to a dinner night or 2 during the week. He yells at them and tells them they don't have a choice. (Now, I do agree that they don't have a choice but when one night is being requested to exchange for another..., maybe that should be taken into consideration and not yell at kids over it)

Then we get him. My daughter is hyperventilating at this point. My son says he things he is going to fave a panic attack. I get them home and finally calmed down. There is a knock on the door, I answer and his bitch wife is there (if you don't know the back story on her don't judge because I am within full rights on anything I say about her. Read old blogs if you thing I a, the problem). I ask where my children's father is. She said downstairs but I can release the children to her. I said no, they are very upset and he can come get them. She then tells me that that she has as many rights as him and tried to force her way into MY home to collect "her" children. :O OH HELL NO!! So I slammed to door in her face and had my sister (the most level headed person in the world) go tell her to send up their father. The kids Are upset, they don't want to go, and I am not willing handing my kids over to a woman who is awful to them and constantly makes them feel like shit. Next thing I know this bitch is screaming to "call the cops, call the cops!!!!" I walk out again and say " Please do, you are causing a public disturbance. Then when they get here they will tell the children's FATHER to get the kids". So he comes up my sister stays out side with the crazy. My daughter is hiding under the bed. My son locked himself in the bathroom. I make my ex come in to see how upset they are (this whole time his wife is screaming and we can hear her inside the apartment... She is a classy one). I get them out, get shoes and walk them out. My daughter is clinging to my leg. The bitch is still screaming for the whole neighborhood to hear. My sister is second from punching her and losing her teaching license!

This was one of the worst experiences I have ever had. It may have been worse than the time he refused to give them back and police went into his house to retrieve them. I don't know what is going to happen tonight. I am supposed to get them back tonight and not the normal Monday that he gets because of school starting. We agreed earlier that I would get them back Sunday evening to allow for an adjustment day for back to school but who knows what he will do..... What do I do??? He is threatening court... Again. This is all happening because I don't have a 6'4" 230lb man who looks like he will kill you for fun standing behind me. The one thing my AHH was good for was shutting my kids dad down quick. My parents handed me cash for a lawyer retainer last night, but I freaking hate that I even had to take it. I am hurting on so many levels this morning.